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10 Reasons Why Peace with Food Works and Diets Don’t

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We have heard it said that you can become an expert in your field if you practice it long enough and hard enough.

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That makes us experts at discovering that diets don’t work. Our guess is that many of you reading this are also experts in this arena as you too have spent years proving that diets and rules just don’t work!

Maybe you’ve read our stories and are thinking that this Peace with Food thing sounds pretty good.  At least you would like to hear more.  Maybe you even want to give it a try. What’s the next step?

First things first.

When we started off on our quest for peace in the area of eating (as well as peace with our body and our life in general) we came to the realization that Peace with Food is worlds apart from diets.

So, if you want to have Peace with Food you will need a paradigm shift, a totally revamping of the way you approach eating, weight loss, and your body.

As we look back at the lessons we have learned, we want to share with you what we think are the main differences that we have found between Peace with Food and the typical diet.  We are sure there are more, but this is a good start:

  1. There is no cookie-cutter approach in Peace with Food.
  2. A number on the scale is no longer the center of your universe in Peace with Food.
  3. Peace with Food is sustainable – for life.
  4. Peace with Food relies on skills, diets on willpower.
  5. Peace with Food recognizes that there are more factors involved in your happiness and health than just the physical aspect.
  6. Peace with Food is principle based whereas diets are rules based.
  7. Peace with Food is transferable to the rest of your life, diets are not.
  8. Peace with Food allows you to enjoy life starting today, not the distant future.
  9. Peace with Food brings you freedom, diets leave you deeper in the hole.
  10. Peace with Food follows peace, diets a plan.

We will be writing about each of these 10 characteristics in more detail in the upcoming posts so stay tuned. But for now, we’ll leave you with the Take-Home Message:

Peace with Food will require a paradigm shift, a revamping of the way you approach eating, weight loss, and your body.

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Season of Food

Hi Suede Sofa Readers! It’s been a while, dear friends–thanks for sticking with us.

Robynn and I LOVE the holidays. Absolutely LOVE them. But we also know that the holiday season can present it’s own challenges, one being FoOd. Since the holidays are right around the corner, we have decided to spend the next few months discussing food, weight loss, and body image. We are going to share ways to have peace in those areas without having to be on a diet, dreading exercise or giving up your favorite foods. Sounds good to be true, right? Well it is true, and you can have it. We hope you’ll join us, for what we are calling theSeason of FoodBut why wait for Thanksgiving? Let’s get started today by sharing a little Q & A. These are answers we gave before we learned how to have peace with food.

What do you dread the most about the holidays?

Lara: There is hardly anything I dread I dread about the holidays–I absolutely LOVE them! But now that you mention it, I guess I don’t look forward to gaining a few pounds due to all the good food. Either that or I dread feeling like I have to deprive myself of my favorite holiday treats so I don’t gain weight.

Robynn: Before I started having peace with food I lived in one extreme {a.k.a insanity} or the other.  The first extreme was depriving myself of my favorite holiday foods because I was on a diet.  The other extreme was rebelling against dieting by giving myself permission to indulge on anything I wanted which only caused me to gain weight and feel cruddy about myself.

 Can you remember a time when you overindulged during the holidays?

Lara: Can I remember A time? Are you kidding? I have countless memories of spending the holidays eating so much I was stuffed before I went to bed and still suffered from a eating hangover the next morning. It’s obvious that you ate too much when you still feel full after waking up the next day. Egh!

Robynn: As I stated above, Yes!  Too many times to count.  However, with the skills Lara and I have learned that living with peace may not mean perfection but I have a much greater success rate.  :)

 

Do the holidays ever present challenges for you? If so, we’ll be sharing what we’ve learned and how to maintain peace during the season of food!

Until next time,

Lara & Robynn

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Eat What You Want

Already lost moTivAtioN with your weight loss/get healthy resolution for 2013?  Well Robynn and I talk about weight loss a lot and we came across something this week that lines up exactly our philosophy, so I had to share!  Check out this short and informative video by Bobby Flay: Bobby Flay Fit

I don’t believe in diets and I couldn’t agree more with Bobby that you shouldn’t have to give up the foods that you love.  Eat what you want…just not as much as you want!!

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So don’t throw in the towel for good.  Continue business as usual, and cut corners when you can.  The most important thing is to NEVER sacrifice so much that you end up feeling deprived of the foods that you love.  We all know that is a recipe for disaster.  I don’t know about you, but thinking about giving up chocolate always results in me gorging in it later :-/

Lara

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Are You Focused?

Have you stayed focused on the goals you set for yourself to accomplish before the summer months hit?  Are there areas you need to target as the weather warms up and the BBQ’s get grilling?  I think we all start out with great intentions to succeed, but somehow LiFe just gets in the way of achieving our goals.

For me the struggle continues to be diet and exercise.  I’m not going to lie…It’s been weeks since I wrote a post about starting The Lazy Girls Workout and this lazy girl has not worked out OnCe since that day.  That is unless you count a few games of freeze tag around the yard with my son, but other than that…NoThInG!

I think when life gets too hectic to find time for ourselves or when we are finding it hard to get moving (in my case literally GeT MoViNg!) it is important to find things to use a motivators.  For me it is going to be my new right out of the box Lands End bathing suit.  Don’t give up on your goals…we all have time to get back in the GaMe!

~Robyn (Jersey Girl)

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Weight Loss: What Works For You?

It’s that time of year…people start panicking about losing weight before they hit the beach.  With the swimsuit season quickly approaching, what works best for you to KiCk those last few pounds?

I’ve been debating this answer all week.  Is it going through the cupboards and throwing out all of the junk food?  Is it giving up pop?  Fasting for a day or two?  Running a mile a day?  Starting a new diet?

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I finally got my answer last night:  Wear clothing that makes me feel skinny.  When I wear my “skinny clothes” I eat well.  If I wear an oversized t-shirt and mesh shorts I might as well be holding a bag of Oreos, because that is what I will turn to after I look in the mirror!  To be honest, I only found one or two outfits that made me feel GoOd.  Since I am limited on these outfits, I may only wear them in the evenings (when I struggle the most with eating) or, better yet, this may mean I need to go shopping! :)

I realize that my answer may be different from yours, which is just another point I want to make:  Every person has to come up with their own weight loss plan because every person has a different body and circumstance!  Don’t get frustrated because you are trying to follow the same plan as your co-worker or friend and the results are different.  If giving up sweets causes you overcompensate later then agree to eat (and enjoy) one cookie every day.  If you hate working out, maybe you need to decide to redo all of landscaping in your yard so you can burn calories while you are doing something you love.

Do whatever it takes to keep you on track.  YOU need to be the one that creates a weight loss plan that is tailored specifically for YOU.  Don’t feel like you have to follow someone else’s rigid plan!  Take bits and pieces of the weight loss resources available and customize a plan that works specifically for you.

Good luck!   (see our other Peace w/ Food posts here).

~Lara

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Lazy Girls Workout

After New Years I cracked down and put a lot of time into meal planning and started working toward my weight watchers goal weight.  As I’ve said before (to see my weight loss post click here) it isn’t like I had a lot of weight to lose, but the 10 to 15 pounds that creep up on me when I don’t watch make me feel miserable.  A few weeks ago I reached my goal weight and was really excited until I realized that although I had reached goal, I hadn’t done one single thing to tone my body while I was losing the weight.  I’m not sure if I thought the stretched tummy from carrying two pregnancies was MaGiCaLlY going to go away with the weight loss or what, but I can assure you…when the clothes come off…it’s still there!

Here’s the GiAnT problem…I HaTe working out.  Walking, running, jogging, weight training, stretching, aerobics (do they even do that anymore?), kickboxing, yoga, stair-climbing, etc….I don’t want to do it!  Strike that, I don’t even want to think about doing it!  I realize that I could continue with my anti-exercise attitude and look good in my clothes, but bathing suit season is coming up and I would LoVe to look good in something other than the tankini with a skirt that I have been wearing since I had my son five years ago.

In comes The Lazy Girls Workout.  While searching Pinterest last night I came across a simple workout for BeGiNnErS.  It was the first time I thought…Wow, I might actually be able to do this!  I’m not making any promises and I’m starting out slow (3 or 4 days a week), but at least it is something!  If you are like me and just can’t get motivated to get moving, find something you think you can do in moderation and set a small goal for yourself.  Together we can get in shape!

~Robyn (Jersey Girl)

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Accountability Partner

It seems like I have always tried to lose weight.  When I had a baby, it was a cHallenGe to get back to my previous weight.  Even during my pre-kid days, I was trying different weight loss tactics to shed those last several pounds.  This year I’ve had my BEST SUCCESS at eating right and in moderation, thanks to one thing…my accountability partner!

In the past, I remember wanting to ask someone to hold me accountable for my weight loss.  Subconsciously though, I knew if I ever wanted to quit my diet, I could give up and no one
would know.  In reAlity, I was setting myself up to fail before I ever started!  Asking someone to hold you accountable is scary, but in the end, it will determine how serious you really are about wanting to cHanGe.

Finding the right person to share your jouRney with is important. My accountability person is someone that I don’t necessarily see often, but who I have to share my weigh-in number with every week.  We don’t work out together, but text or call each other with what we are up to (good and bad).  You must be comFortable enough with this person so you can “be real” and trust that even if you gain a pound or two, they won’t judge you but continue to enCouRage.

Is there a habit you can’t kick? Perhaps you should REACH OUT to a good friend and ask them for help.  It not only will strengthen your relationship with them, but have poSitiVe Results on achieving your goal!

~Lara

P.S — A big shout-out to my accountability partner today!  Wouldn’t have the success I’m having if it wasn’t for YOU!!  Thanks :)

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