For the past two summers I have enrolled my son in a swim school that offers phenomenal programs to teach children how to swim. He has a summer birthday so it is always hard for me to decide what age group I want him to be with. Last summer I put him with the 3 year olds even though he was turning 4 because it was his first experience swimming, but this summer I decided to put him with the 5 year olds since he did so well last year. What I didn’t factor in was that by moving him to the 5 year olds I was taking him out of the smaller pool where he can reach the bottom and putting him in the bigger pool where he has to rely on his swimming ability. After 3 days of swim school I was already regretting my decision. Nicholas was giving me a hard time about going in the morning and kept saying he wanted to go back to the little pool.
That night I told my husband I was going to talk to the director and get Nicholas switched into the younger group with the 4 year olds so that he could go back into the smaller pool. I tossed and turned all night thinking I had made a terrible decision and that I just wanted to make everything better. I guess the PrOtEcTiVe MoMmY in me had gone into overdrive because I couldn’t wait to get to swim school and fix everything for my little boy. When we got to swim school the following morning I decided that rather than just go to the director and switch Nicholas I should talk to his instructors first and get their opinion. As a teacher I always encouraged parents to come to me with questions or concerns so I thought following my own advice might be a good idea. Nicholas’ instructors assured me that he was swimming with a group of children who are at a level that is perfect for him. They also reminded me that it was Nicholas who expressed interest in swimming in his very first race that same week and he even came in first place. Dropping him to the younger group would allow him to touch the bottom of the pool and make him more comfortable, but it also would never have given him the opportunity to rise to the ChAlLeNgE and SuCcEeD!
I guess in the case of parenting it is important to FoLlOw YoUr HeArT and UsE YoUr HeAd!
~Robyn (Jersey Girl)
I remember when Doug and I were dating and we had to carry a heavy piece of furniture out to his truck. After we got done I told him “goOd WoRk” and he replied with “kNow YoUr RoLe”! It made me stop and think for a second…we all play a special role in every task and relationship that we experience.
As the years passed I realized that our roles cHaNgE depending on the situation. For example, when he takes the initiative to call and schedule something for our family, it is my role to be quiet and not ask twenty questions to insure that he did it correctly. His role is to take care of the matter and it is my role to trust him. (And I know if I perform my role correctly, I will avoid potential arguments!)
Another example is in friendships. Every relationship is diFFeRent which means your role changes depending on the person you are communicating with. I LOVE to talk, BUT my role with some people is to be the sounding board. I am happy to play a different role because I know it is needed to keep that friendship strong.
Maybe you’ve never given your “role” much thought. Just remember that even though you have sTroNg qualities, sometimes you aren’t suppose to use them in every role you play. Next time ask yourself, “What is needed the most here? A cheerleader, follower, educator, volunteer, cleaner, etc.?” and take pRiDe in playing the role that is NEEDED most!
It seems like I have always tried to lose weight. When I had a baby, it was a cHallenGe to get back to my previous weight. Even during my pre-kid days, I was trying different weight loss tactics to shed those last several pounds. This year I’ve had my BEST SUCCESS at eating right and in moderation, thanks to one thing…my accountability partner!
In the past, I remember wanting to ask someone to hold me accountable for my weight loss. Subconsciously though, I knew if I ever wanted to quit my diet, I could give up and no one
would know. In reAlity, I was setting myself up to fail before I ever started! Asking someone to hold you accountable is scary, but in the end, it will determine how serious you really are about wanting to cHanGe.
Finding the right person to share your jouRney with is important. My accountability person is someone that I don’t necessarily see often, but who I have to share my weigh-in number with every week. We don’t work out together, but text or call each other with what we are up to (good and bad). You must be comFortable enough with this person so you can “be real” and trust that even if you gain a pound or two, they won’t judge you but continue to enCouRage.
Is there a habit you can’t kick? Perhaps you should REACH OUT to a good friend and ask them for help. It not only will strengthen your relationship with them, but have poSitiVe Results on achieving your goal!
P.S — A big shout-out to my accountability partner today! Wouldn’t have the success I’m having if it wasn’t for YOU!! Thanks :)