I am hard on my kids. Too hard, a lot of times, which always makes me regret it once I stop and think about how I’m treating them. Instead of choosing my battles, I decide to take on every battle! That is what SUPERMOM is all about, right? Keeping a tight leash on your kids and setting the bar super high? After some ReFleCtioN this week, maybe I should start looking for a new role model…
As Christians, we know how miserably we fail at numerous tasks and actions throughout our day, yet when we glance up at God we are reassured that He forgives and loves us no matter how much we are being a disappointment. It is so comforting to know that when I make mistakes, at least someone still has my back…because HE knows we are human and are far from pErfeCt.
Yet WHY do I hold my kids to a different standard? When they don’t do what I ask, or spill a cup FULL of pop on the floor, I repeatedly get on to them and ask why they didn’t listen or be more careful!! Not only that, but I bring it up AGAIN when their Dad comes home and maybe even AGAIN before they go to sleep, in hopes that I am getting my point across!
When I make the same exact mistakes (just in adult form!), does God TrEaT me like that? Never. I always feel Him looking at me in a calm way, his eyes telling me that I need to pick myself up and go on. I know I let Him down but I also know that once I acknowledge my weaknesses to Him, He moves on and doesn’t keep throwing it in my face. I really appreciate that about Him.
So why is it okay for me to fail God but not okay for others to fail me? As cHalleNgiNg as it will be, I am going to try to be as understanding and calm with my children as He is to me. Sure, I’ll still get on to them and discipline when needed, but then I need to let it go and hope they make a better decision next time. We know that kids won’t always do the right thing, but thankfully God doesn’t give up on us adults either! With every year I get under my belt, I can see I’m going to need all the help and forgiveness I can get!
Sunday morning I made my family breakfast. To me, I was going “all out” as I made the kids orange juice from a frozen can and threw together a quick and easy breakfast casserole. For a moment I felt like finding my SuPerMoM cape and attaching it to my p.j’s. “Look at me!” I was rejoicing inside. “I’m a pro at this Mom stuff!”
The t.v. just happened to catch my eye as I headed into the dining room. Pioneer Woman was on the food network. Consequently, she too was making breakfast that morning. I enjoy watching her show and am faSciNateD by her life. I couldn’t help but keep watching, noticing her amazing (spotless) kitchen. She put her homemade French toast in the oven and headed off to her garden to water her flowers. Of course, the plants were luscious and looked like something out of Better Homes and Garden. Everything was perfect, clear down to the beauty of the garden hose (I know…is that even possible?!)! Once breakfast was ready she told her daughter to “grab the hot syrup I have warming on the stove”. As I watched the hot syrup flow out of the beautiful serving dish I realized I hadn’t blinked in the last 5 minutes….
Remember the last sentence of my first paragraph? Well, those feelings were long gone. I felt so deFeaTed. The breakfast I made was a joke compared to what I had just witnessed. And the gardening? I would have been lucky to remember that I bought a small plant at Wal-Mart, only to find it dead in the back of our expedition a few weeks later.
I just want to be clear that I think Pioneer Woman is an inspiration, but I would be foolish to think that every part of her life is as perfect as seen on t.v. If, at the right time, you took a snap shot of every person’s life, it would appear that their situation and life is perfect. Someone is even looking at part of your life and wishing theirs was as perfect as yours! Doesn’t that make you laugh? Of course! Because we know how imperfect our own lives are, and can’t believe how much we have them fooled! Yet why do we think we are soooo different than everyone else?
With pinterest, t.v. and magazines, it is easy to feel like a failure! In the future, use these things as resources to moTiVaTe or give you some ideas. DON’T use it as a comparison tool, because the only person you are fooling is yourself!