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Why Diets Don’t Work: Reason #4

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Reason #4:  Peace with Food relies on skills, diets on willpower.

What does a professional athlete, accountant, concert pianist, and a plumber all have in common?

One word: skill.

They have learned a set of skills and honed them to become successful in their area of expertise. And how exactly did they hone these skills? They spent considerable time practicing.

There is no way to get around it. If you want to be skilled at something, you have to practice. And living at Peace with Food is no different. If you want to be successful in maintaining your optimal weight, living a life you love, and doing it with peace it will require skills, not willpower.

It’s funny how unskilled we were in this area of Peace with Food when we first began. Back when we started on this journey, our peace was probably a 1 or 2 on a scale of 10. But now, after practicing continually we would have to say that our peace in this area is an 8 or 9.  And it is all because we pursued skills and not willpower.

What’s so bad about willpower?  Well, it’s not that it’s bad, per se.  It’s just not the optimal tool for the job. Unlike skills, which bring success, willpower is fickle.  Here today gone tomorrow.  Any one who has any dieting under their belt has most likely experienced the ebb and flow of willpower.  It seems like when you need it most it is MIA.

Unlike willpower, skills will help you live at Peace with Food for life, not just for 16 days, 23 days, or whatever the length of your newest diet (if even that). When you acquire skills such as self-control, making wise choices, and “resetting” right after a mess-up, you will get a much bigger bang for your buck than some temporary surge of willpower.

So, instead of mustering up the willpower to try harder, consider developing skills that will ensure your victory. What skill would help you make a quantum leap in the area of Peace with Food? Start there. As your skill level goes up, so will your success!

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Take-Home Message:

Skills will lead to success.

 

 

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{Pick One}

So, what do you do if you’re Tom Osborne (the athletic director and former iconic University Of Nebraska Cornhusker football coach), you’re without a mens’ basketball coach, and looking for a coach with a proven history to build a basketball program?  You hire someone who has turned around a handful of floundering basketball programs into thriving and nationally competitive teams.  And that coach is Tim Miles.  Can I hear a Go BiG ReD?

Tim happens to be a FriEnD of mine.  We are from the same small town in South Dakota and I’ve been friends with his parents and siblings for years.  So when my family vacationed in Colorado around the time he landed his last job at Colorado State University a few years back, we stopped by to say “Hi” and check out his new facilities.  As we were catching up on his life and new coaching position, Scott and I asked him if he ever went back to South Dakota to hunt (a popular sport there – the pheasant, after all is South Dakota’s state bird and for good reason.  There are tons of them!) or if he was able to do much snow skiing.

Tim’s answer was one I ReMemBer for a very long time.  He told us that years ago, one of his basketball coaching mentors told him that he should “Pick one.”  Either he should focus on coaching or let the coaching take 2nd fiddle to these other activities.  This mentor understood the sacrifice it would take to be successful at the collegiate level.   Smart man (and successful too).

If you are frustrated because you don’t feel like you are good at anything (or at least not as good at something as you would like to be) could it be that you are trying to be good at everything?  Is it time to StReEmLiNe?  Contrary to popular belief, you can’t have it all.

Take a look at the people you AdMiRe who are at the top of their game in any area of life.  When you do, chances are  you will discover they have embraced the “Pick One” principle as well.  There’s nothing wrong with experimenting to see what works best for you.  But to be successful, eventually you have to make a choice and PiCk OnE.

:)

Robynn~

P.S.  Thanks for the lesson, Tim.

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Rely on Friends to LIVE IT!

Last Friday I made my 9 day promise to be a more patient mommy and not “LoSe It” when things get out of control.  Within 3 hours of the post going up I was already struggling to keep my cool when my kids seemed to be on an all out crusade to do the opposite of anything I was asking them to do!  Thankfully my husband stepped in and told me to go out and run my errands by myself.  I got in my mommy mini-van and listened to my Christmas music and savored each uninterrupted moment I had as I drove.  While I was out I sent Lara a text saying that I seemed to be FaILiNg miserably at my 9 day promise.  She wrote back some great advice…”Actions are stronger than words.”  Now when my kids act up instead of yelling I am taking Lara’s advice and am just moving them to time-out without saying anything.  They are old enough to know why they are in trouble without me going on and on about it and saying nothing keeps me from “losing it”.  By the time their time-out is over I can talk to them about what they did in a calm manner.

When working on your Live-It List, think about the people you can ReLy on to help you be successful.  Whether it be skydiving or completing a quilt, think of the people in your life that you can reach out to who can help you AcHieVe your goals!

~Robyn (Jersey Girl)

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“The Challenge”

How would you like to begin the JoUrNeY towards your dream, not only with cheerleaders on the sideline, but also with others who are pursuing their DREAM as well?  “The Challenge” is just that.

In this six-month endeavor there will be weekly tools to help you through the many steps of accomplishing a dream.  You will be given input on beginning sTrOnG; overcoming inertia; dealing with adversity, setbacks, and failure; persevering in the face of discouragement; how to find the resources and accountability you need; and just plain ‘ole encouragement and  support.

There will be SuCcEsS stories of others who have endured and ultimately overcame.  You will be challenged, motivated, and inspired.

We realize that all dreams do not have a six-month time line.  You may reach your goal in two months and if you do, that is awesome!  Mission accomplished!!  However, we know that many dreams take much longer to achieve than just a couple of months or even six months and we want to provide the necessary resources to help you on your journey.

At the end of the six months, you may still have a long way to go, but you will be six months closer to reaching your dream.   If you are finally ready to take the L E A P, “The Challenge” can help you fulfill your dreams and your purpose.  We hope you will join us in “The Challenge” and look forward to reading your success story!

Kick-start your dream by filling out the packing list now!!

~Robynn

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