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Why Diets Don’t Work: Reason #4

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Reason #4:  Peace with Food relies on skills, diets on willpower.

What does a professional athlete, accountant, concert pianist, and a plumber all have in common?

One word: skill.

They have learned a set of skills and honed them to become successful in their area of expertise. And how exactly did they hone these skills? They spent considerable time practicing.

There is no way to get around it. If you want to be skilled at something, you have to practice. And living at Peace with Food is no different. If you want to be successful in maintaining your optimal weight, living a life you love, and doing it with peace it will require skills, not willpower.

It’s funny how unskilled we were in this area of Peace with Food when we first began. Back when we started on this journey, our peace was probably a 1 or 2 on a scale of 10. But now, after practicing continually we would have to say that our peace in this area is an 8 or 9.  And it is all because we pursued skills and not willpower.

What’s so bad about willpower?  Well, it’s not that it’s bad, per se.  It’s just not the optimal tool for the job. Unlike skills, which bring success, willpower is fickle.  Here today gone tomorrow.  Any one who has any dieting under their belt has most likely experienced the ebb and flow of willpower.  It seems like when you need it most it is MIA.

Unlike willpower, skills will help you live at Peace with Food for life, not just for 16 days, 23 days, or whatever the length of your newest diet (if even that). When you acquire skills such as self-control, making wise choices, and “resetting” right after a mess-up, you will get a much bigger bang for your buck than some temporary surge of willpower.

So, instead of mustering up the willpower to try harder, consider developing skills that will ensure your victory. What skill would help you make a quantum leap in the area of Peace with Food? Start there. As your skill level goes up, so will your success!

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Take-Home Message:

Skills will lead to success.

 

 

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Peace With Food {Over Rating Self-Control}

Boy, I messed up this past weekend and lost “PeAcE WiTh FoOd”.  {Sigh}  Here’s the story, maybe you can relate.  I went to the grocery store to get some items for dinner.  My kids had been begging me to have hot-dogs.  So, hot-dogs and turkey burgers it was.  As I was getting the items I picked up some chips {they were baked, but still, they provide a temptation if I’m not careful}.  I knew as I was picking them up that this was not a good idea.  I was having one of those days.  You know what I’m talking about, right?   One of those days where you just want to turn your brain off and go on AuTo PiLoT?  I went home and as I was preparing the meal I opened up the chips to snack on.  {A recipe for disaster.  What was I doing?  I know better.}  Normally, when I want to munch on something during meal prep I like to have carrots or veggies, because even though I’m not crazy about raw veggies, if they are there I will eat them.  But this time, it was “forget the veggies, I’ll take the chips.”  Well, needless to say, things only went down hill from there.  But it was InEviTabLe as I disregarded a principle I have learned a long time ago:

“Use WiSdOm where wisdom is needed and self-control where self-control is needed.”

It is so easy to think that all we need is self-control, when in essence what we really need is wisdom.  Self-control is GrEaT, but many times we use it as our first line of defense, when really it should be the 2nd.  Had I used wisdom in the grocery store I would have decreased the likelihood that I even had to use self-control.  I wouldn’t have even put myself in a tempting situation.

This applies in all areas of life, not just eating and food.  Where do you struggle with self-control?  Exercise, spending, gambling, drinking, shopping, gossiping?  These are just a few of the things that people struggle with.  Have you taken the 1st step and AppLiEd wisdom?  If you are wanting to exercise early in the morning it is not wise to think that when the alarm goes off you will be ready to work out if you don’t have a plan in place and maybe even an accountability partner.  If shopping is your weakness, thinking you will be able to say “No”, once inside the store is setting yourself up for a fall.

Where are your temptations?  Take the first step and get yourself out of those situations ASAP.  Remove as many temptations as possible.  That’s wisdom.  And the amazing thing I have found is that many times once I have taken the 1st step of wisdom, self-control just kicks in automatically and I really don’t have to exert much effort.

Does this mean that self-control isn’t important?  Not at all, but it sure gives you the AdVanTaGe and puts the odds in your favor of winning the ViCtOrY.

:)

Robynn~

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Robynn’s 6-Month Challenge….Peace With Food

Ok, so Lara and I talk about GeTtiNg ReAl and being TrAnSpArEnT.  Here goes. . .

Today, the S.u.e.d.e.S.o.f.a.  is beginning “The ChAlLeNgE”, a SiX-MoNtH jOuRnEy towards a goal or DrEaM.  I have a challenge of my own that I am going to be sharing with you during these next six months and here it is:  walking in PeAcE with food.  For years I have struggled with overeating resulting in the vicious cycle of gain weight, diet, lose weight, gain weight.  I have made a lot of progress, but still, I am not where I desire to be in this area of SeLf-CoNtRoL.

Although I have made great strides in this area, I desire not only to deal with this issue once and for all, but also to help others struggling in this area.  In the past, my focus has been a number on the scale, which really was just the symptom of an underlying problem.  However, this time around, I am focusing on the real issue – my ChArAcTeR and developing self-control.

My biggest challenge, when it comes to eating is consuming too much food early in the day.  I then either have to go through the rest of the day not able to eat, feeling deprived as I watch my family eat, OR I feel hopeless and just give in thinking, “What’s the point?”

My next biggest challenge is thinking that if I go over a little, I may as well blow it and go all out.  These are the two bad habits I will be focusing on replacing with the positive habits of using self-control and moderation.

So, how about you?  Do you have any goals or dreams you want to PuRsUe?  Any NeW hAbiTS you want to form?  If so, then come along with us.  The journey is a whole lot more EnJoYaBLe when taking it with a friend!!

~Robynn

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