(Written this past February)
Greetings from Hawaii! I am writing this as I sit on our hotel balcony, overlooking the ocean. I was lucky enough to be able to tag along with Doug since he had a conference here for a week!
We wrestled with the thought of taking our kids on this trip. We have missed them so much but I can ConFideNtly say I am glad we went on this trip alone. I am amazed with the depth of our conversations simply because we had time to THINK. No distractions. No diapers to change. Just us, having conversations that can last longer than 60 second because there is no one around to interrupt!
I won’t lie. I had anxiety about taking this trip. Being a Mom (and a bit of a worrier), you can only image the type of concoctions that I came up with on why I needed to stay home with the kids. I can’t tell you enough how GooD this time has away has been for our marriage and for our spiritual life.
We all need time for ourselves and with our spouse. If I’m at home I come up with a million things I have to do. Forcing myself to be away from cleaning a house and taking care of the kids allows me to clear my thoughts and become Re-eNerGized.
Has it been a while since you have stepped away from your normal routine and environment? You don’t need Hawaii to eScaPe. Be creative, but most importantly, don’t talk yourself out of it!
Last week I tagged along with Doug as he had a conference on the Big Island of Hawaii! We had a really great time! The hardest thing about coming back from a trip like that (or a spiritual weekend retreat) is that you immediately are faced with REALITY. It is so easy to have all of these wonderful plans, thoughts and ideas of how you want things to be when you return and the BAM you are faced with sick kids, bills, work, etc.
Doug and I discussed this dilemma. During our vacation we read a couple of books that imPacTed our lives greatly. We knew that coming back would be hard because it is much easier to have your priorities in order when relaxing on vacation. Living a week without a time schedule and work makes life so siMple….but unfortunately that is not reality!
So what do I do? My best advice is to suRroUnd yourself with people who support your new way of thinking. If you can’t find support right away then jot down your ideas on paper to serve as reminders. Place those thoughts on a bulletin board or in areas of the house that you will stumble across during the day to help hold you aCcouNtable. Realistically, even those ideas will only last temporarily and the realness of your day-to-day routine will try to take over. This will be an ongoing process, but no reason to give up entirely. Continue to search for ways to keep you on track and, if all else fails, schedule another getaway (like a day without kids or distractions) in the next 6 months that will allow you to regroup your thoughts!
With the hustle and bustle of being a mom, running a business and keeping up with life in general, it is easy to let extra fun and uNique experiences pass me by if I let them. To-do lists will always be NeVer-Ending and no matter how hard we try, there will never be more than 24 hours in a day!
When I find myself busy with the daily grind, I am often reminded of something my Dad told me growing up, “Sometimes you need to live a little.”
“Living a little” may be painting your toes a crazy color or wearing an outfit that is different from your typical wardrobe style. Maybe it means eating on your Grandmother’s china more often, rolliNg around in the sand with your kids or doing something as cRaZy as sky-diving! Put your busy life on hold now and then and “live a little”! It will be FUN and you’ll never regret the MeMories you’ll make while doing so!
*This is a picture of my sister!! She is so BRAVE! ;)