I remember when Doug and I were dating and we had to carry a heavy piece of furniture out to his truck. After we got done I told him “goOd WoRk” and he replied with “kNow YoUr RoLe”! It made me stop and think for a second…we all play a special role in every task and relationship that we experience.
As the years passed I realized that our roles cHaNgE depending on the situation. For example, when he takes the initiative to call and schedule something for our family, it is my role to be quiet and not ask twenty questions to insure that he did it correctly. His role is to take care of the matter and it is my role to trust him. (And I know if I perform my role correctly, I will avoid potential arguments!)
Another example is in friendships. Every relationship is diFFeRent which means your role changes depending on the person you are communicating with. I LOVE to talk, BUT my role with some people is to be the sounding board. I am happy to play a different role because I know it is needed to keep that friendship strong.
Maybe you’ve never given your “role” much thought. Just remember that even though you have sTroNg qualities, sometimes you aren’t suppose to use them in every role you play. Next time ask yourself, “What is needed the most here? A cheerleader, follower, educator, volunteer, cleaner, etc.?” and take pRiDe in playing the role that is NEEDED most!
I was having a conversation with a friend the other day about how society overuses certain phrases and responses. For example, when someone asks “How are you doing?” don’t you normally reply with “I’m good”? Whether or not you truly are GoOd, out of habit, your response is always the same.
Another habitual phrase is “We should get together sometime”. How often do you say that but never follow through? Do you really mEaN it or are you just saying it to be nice? Maybe you have good intentions but life gets in the way before remembering to schedule a specific date.
On the flipside, have you ever tried to follow-up with people who wanted to ‘get together sometime’ and it was almost like they fOrGot they ever suggested it?! That was a little awkward, wasn’t it? The situation may have even made you question your relationship with that person.
We have all made pRoMiSes that we can’t keep but how often do we consider how it makes the other person feel? Next time your routine conversation comes into play, stop and ask yourself if the words you speak are siNceRe. By doing so, following through with your commitments will comfort the other person that you value the relationship.
(*I am writing this post because I need this reminder, not because I am trying to hint around that you have broken a promise with me :) No worries! And if I haven’t been prompt on following up with you, please forgive me!)
(Up for an additional challenge? Take your relationship one step further and read my other post If You Feel It, Say It.)
Whether your marriage is rOck SoliD or needing a little work, there is a movie you Need to see. Fireproof is the B E S T movie I’ve watched when it comes to marriage. The movie was given to us as a giFt and my husband and I watch it together at least once a year. Each time we gain something new, and each time it puts a BooSt in our relationship with each other and God.
Have you had a dAte niGht in a while? Set aside a night this week and watch this movie with your spouse. You won’t be disappointed!