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From the Confessional

Has LiFe turned out the way you thought it would?  I have to confess that mine is very different than I had “planned”.  After we got married I envisioned living in the country, only working from 8-5, and having all the time in the world to play with my kids and make pErfeCt sugar cookies with them like you see on the commercials.  I feel like I woke up one day and immediately thought, “Hey!  What happened to that perfect life plan I had?  Give it back!”  Have you ever felt like that?

Many days I feel like I’m chasing my own tail.  Even though I’m a stay-at-home mom, there are never enough hours to do the laundry, make (decent) meals, and remember to send birthday cards to loved ones on time (or at all!).  After living in St. Louis for 2 years we DO live in the country (yay!) BUT we DON’T have a tYpiCal life style.  My husband travels often so we might eat breakfast with him instead of supper and we get up before dawn to fill orders for my business before we start our “day” jobs.  Soon we plan to move closer to where we grew up so we can farm more.  Moving means not being sEttLed for a while and a new location means new challenges. See why I feel like I’m chasing my tail?!

I’ve realized that even though my life is different and crazier than I had planned, why couldn’t it mean that it may end up bEtteR? Looking back, my previous “plan” would be less stressful, but maybe even a little boring.  People that take risks and live life to the fullest often have more sAtisfaCtion.  Despite taking a detour from the “plan”, I guess I’m willing to accept the challenge for a chance of a more rewarding future.

What is a “normal” life anyway? The more I think of it, I don’t know many friends or family that have an 8-5 work life and lounge around after work.  Life is just hectic sometimes I guess.  Keeping focused on the GooD things that come from this “unplanned” life is the most important thing.


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My Kind Of Perfect


       How many times have you found yourself ScrAmbLinG around the night before a holiday or party trying to clean up your house for your guests?  It was HaRd EnOuGh to keep the house straightened out when it was just two of us, but throw in two kids and now it seems just plain impossible.  A while ago I found a saying that I LOVED and just had to have for my home…Please excuse the noise & mess…the kids are MaKiNg HaPpY MeMoRiEs.

        BINGO!  These were my thoughts exactly, but I just couldn’t find a way to put them into words.  I don’t want my kids to grow up remembering a mom that picks things up the second they are out of place.  I want them to look back on their ChiLdHoOd and think of all of the fun games and activities we did together in our home.  I can vividly remember 30 years back, my sister and I playing with our Barbie bathtubs on a tablecloth on our kitchen floor.  My mom wasn’t worried about water, bubbles, and a mess.  She was CrEaTiNg An EnViRoNmEnT that allowed us to enjoy what we had and JuSt Be KiDs.

        It isn’t always easy to let things go, but I am making an effort to pLaY mOrE and WoRrY LeSs.  So what if someone stops over for a visit and my house is perfect?  My kids are perfectly happy and in the end…that is all I can ask for.

~Jersey Girl~

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This Is Not Reality!

I walked past this Barbie, and had to think, “Get a ReaLitY cHeCk!” I’m not talking to myself here and I’m certainly not talking to you, but rather those responsible for selling us this bill of goods – the media, pop culture, Hollywood, and anyone else wanting us to believe the insidious lie that we need to look this perfect.

To PuT it iN pErSpEcTive, consider this:  Could you look like this Barbie (or the picture perfect celebrities we see gracing the covers of magazines in the grocery store checkout isles) if:

You had a full-time hairdresser and makeup artist getting you ready every day?  Well, “Maybe.” You say, but I’m _____ pounds overweight, so “Maybe not.”  I’m glad you brought that up because I failed to mention that you also have a personal trainer who monitors your daily exercise, weight, etc.  They even make house calls.  Exercise not producing the desired results?  Plastic surgery isn’t just an option; it’s a WaY of LiFe for you, Baby!

You’re thinking that you’re getting closer, but still there’s the issue of eating right.  Not to worry, because you also have aT yOuR diSpoSaL a dietitian who will carefully plan your meals – breakfast, lunch and dinner, so that you know you are eating the right amounts of protein, carbs, and fats.  I can hear you saying, “That’s all well and good, but I get home from work exhausted, needing to cook dinner, my kids have activities and homework, I have to pay the bills, pick up the house, schedule appointments, and shop for groceries.”  Not to worry, because although you may work hard, you have a chef, a nanny, a personal assistant, a chauffeur, a manager, as well as someone who shops for you, pays the bills for you, cleans for you, picks up your messes, and yes, eVeN tHinKs fOr yoU.

Now before anyone gets upset thinking I’m blasting these women who live this life, understand that my criticism is targeted not at them or their lifestyle, but rather at the ImPosSibLe and uNreAlisTic sTanDaRd that is projected on women by society.  If you have acquired these kinds of resources, use them for God’s glory and thank God for them.

However, most women do not have the resources that these extremely affluent women have.  Instead, they dO tHe BeSt they can with what they have.  This is their reality.  They are married, single, divorced, widowed, with children, without children.  Women who cook, clean, pay the bills, deal with financial pressures, grocery shop, wipe snotty noses, cart kids around, make appointments, and manage all the other affairs of their household.  Its no wonder that they have little if any time to think about themselves.

This reminds me of the ProVerbs 31 Woman. If you get a chance today, I encourage you to take a few minutes to read it.  You may see yourself on these pages. http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=proverbs%2031&version=NIV

But notice how the standard is not perfection and outward beauty.  Verse 30 says it all:

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

What a breath of FrEsH AiR! Finally a standard that is actually possible to attain!!


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