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You can either be miserable about it or…

Accept it and move on.  Easier said than done, isn’t it?!  I was actually sitting here answering a bunch of emails this afternoon as I could hear a bunch of gravel trucks driving back and forth on our gravel road.  Now, you must understand that where we use to live, we were lucky to get 1-2 cars drive by every day.  So…no matter what is driving by our house it would seem oVerwHeLmiNg because it is so foreign to me!traffic

When we first moved here this summer the traffic drove me crazy.  I cringed every time I could hear a motor off in the distance.  It would upset me so much I would be in a bad mood for the rest of the day. (Doesn’t that seem so silly?!?!) I am so embarrassed to even admit that!  I would have a pity party every once in a while and sulk about how much I loved living in our old location, with no one to noisily drive by the house and kick up the dust.

After a couple months, I got tired of FeeLiNg this way.  There wasn’t a lot I could do about the situation and I could either let it destroy my days or I could accept it and move on.  Believe it or not, things actually got easier the day I finally decided to accept it.  It isn’t always easy but most days I don’t even give it a second thought.

There are so many things that pop into our lives that we don’t have any control over, YET we let them consume us and our mood.  Maybe you don’t like your husband’s new work schedule or you get annoyed with someone you work closely with.  These things are probably out of our hands and the only thing we can do to control the situation is to control how we let it affect us.

So next time that gravel truck gets under my skin I’m going to remember all the great things about living in our new location.  Sure we have more traffic, but that also means we are seeing more friends and family!  You have to take the good with the bad, and instead of letting the “bad” destroy you, make the best of what’s left or simply LET GO.

Lara

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What Women Can Learn From Men

Doug and I woke up one morning and had a small disagreement before he went to work.  After he left, I spent the next hour FeeLiNg horrible in my responses to our conversation.  I felt insensitive and unsupportive.  No matter what I did to distract my thoughts I couldn’t stop thinking about what happened and how gUiLty I felt.

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So…I sent him a text that SAID:  “Honey I am SO sorry about this morning.  I will try harder. Please forgive me.”

In the text back, HE SAID:  “Oh, what are you upset about?  Whatever happened, I already forgot about it.  Have a good day!”

Men.  Aren’t they amazing how quickly they “move on” after a fight and don’t consume their entire day analyzing arguments?  I have found that if I apologize quickly or improve my mood when conversations start off on the wrong foot, he is already way ahead of me!

I challenge you to try this!  When you get in an argument, be the “MAN” in the relationship.  Despite how difficult, improve your mood and MOVE ON.  If you do, most likely they will too.  Don’t waste endless hours replaying the fight in your mind and use that time doing better things with the ones you love.

~Lara

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