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Know Your Role

I remember when Doug and I were dating and we had to carry a heavy piece of furniture out to his truck.  After we got done I told him “goOd WoRk” and he replied with “kNow YoUr RoLe”!  It made me stop and think for a second…we all play a special role in every task and relationship that we experience.

As the years passed I realized that our roles cHaNgE depending on the situation.  For example, when he takes the initiative to call and schedule something for our family, it is my role to be quiet and not ask twenty questions to insure that he did it correctly.  His role is to take care of the matter and it is my role to trust him.  (And I know if I perform my role correctly, I will avoid potential arguments!)

Another example is in friendships.  Every relationship is diFFeRent which means your role changes depending on the person you are communicating with.  I LOVE to talk, BUT my role with some people is to be the sounding board.  I am happy to play a different role because I know it is needed to keep that friendship strong.

Maybe you’ve never given your “role” much thought.  Just remember that even though you have sTroNg qualities, sometimes you aren’t suppose to use them in every role you play.  Next time ask yourself, “What is needed the most here?  A cheerleader, follower, educator, volunteer, cleaner, etc.?” and take pRiDe in playing the role that is NEEDED most!

~Lara

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{Dog Heaven}

MaN’s BeSt FriEnD.  That’s what our dog, Walter, was to my husband, Scott.  They were best buddies.  Sadly, ‘ole Wally went to Dog Heaven yesterday.

I say “sadly”.  However, Walter did have a full life.  He was 12 years, 1 month, and 27 days old.  That’s 80-something in human years.  So, he actually lived a nice, long life.  And when I say “nice”, I mean ReALLy “nice”.  Wally definitely lived the high life, but he didn’t start off that way.

When Walter was just four-months old he got into rat poison which landed him in the vet hospital.  After a blood transfusion, a close brush with death, and an owner who couldn’t afford the vet bill, Wally was given to the vet.  The vet was friends with Scott and after a little PerSuAdiNg she talked Scott into taking Wally home with him.  And that is when it all began.

Little did Scott know what he was getting himself into.  Nor did he know the FriEnDsHiP that would transpire.

Yes, we would actually sleep with Walter on our bed like the above picture!

That first night together Walter gave Scott a little preview of what life would be like.  As Scott placed two steaks on the countertop for dinner and then turned his back to start the grill, Walter in a flash grabbed the steaks and they were gone.  When Scott went to put Walter to bed in the new dog bed he had just bought, Walter ripped it to shreds.  He wouldn’t settle for anything but Scott’s bed.  Walter had his own AgEnDa, to say the least.

When I met Scott, Walter was 2-years old, full of vim and vigor.  He was the most high-strung dog I had ever met.  He was ornery and demanding.  He helped himself to food on the counter.  {Once that was a crock pot of chili.}  However, he was also a LoVeR and not a fighter.  The night I went into labor with my oldest, I went downstairs to watch tv and record my contractions.  Walter came down with me and would not leave my side.  Once we did have kids, he became a willing participant of their antics in exchange for regular food hand-outs.

A FaiThFuL friend, Walter would look out the window everyday for Scott to come home.  As soon as he would see Scott’s vehicle pull in the driveway, he would run around the house like a crazy man.

In a nutshell, Walter was part of our family.

I bought this print a year or so ago because I knew it would be a reminder of Walter when he was gone.  This is the pose he sat in. 

I’ll miss a lot about Walter.  That personality that was larger than life.  Hearing his tail ThUmP on the hardwood floor early in the morning signaling to me my girls were coming down the stairs.  {Or anytime you walked over to him, for that matter.}  The lover-boy he had become wanting to lay by your side and have you pet him.  The softest fur a dog could ever have.  The HaPpiEsT soul to see you when you walked in the door every day.

GoOd-ByE Wally.  We’ll miss you, old friend.

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Find Out Who Your Friends Are

Over the course of your life you develop numerous friendships.  Family friends, elementary school friends, high school friends, college friends, work friends, neighborhood friends, parenting friends, and the list goes on and on.  In recent years the use of Facebook has become a way to rekindle friendships that fell to the way side or even ignite friendships with people who at one time were just acquaintances.  In our busy day-to-day lives it can be hard to Be TheRe for all of these friends or to even set aside a time to get together and catch up.  However in the back of our minds there are always those friends who you know would drop everything in an instant if you needed them.

Over four years ago I delivered my son three weeks early after being induced for preeclampsia.  One day after I returned home with my newborn I was rushed to the emergency room with dangerously high blood pressure.  I spent the next three days hooked up to a magnesium drip to get my blood pressure under control.  I was already feeling the onset of postpartum depression (click to read my story) and all of the medication I was now taking made me completely disoriented.  I was in and out of sleep, my vision was blurry, and my head felt like I had been hit my a truck.  While laying in my hospital bed missing my newborn baby boy I looked at the door and was able to make out the outline of someone walking in.  I knew immediately it was my friend Jessica and in that moment I felt peace.  Jessica and I have known each other since we took dancing school together at age four.  We’ve been through so much together and no distance or circumstance has ever kept us apart when it CoUnTs.  That day in the hospital I couldn’t talk or even see her clearly, but that didn’t matter.  She sent my mom home to shower and sat and read magazines while she watched me rest.  She called in sick to work that day because she knew I needed her and to this day I am GrAtEfUl.

The Tracy Lawrence song “Find Out Who Your Friends Are” has always reminded me of our friendship.  I am sure you all have your own “Jessica” in your lives and can relate to the lyrics.

~Robyn (Jersey Girl)

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