Reason #1: Diets use a cookie-cutter approach.
At Christmas season one of our favorite activities is making sugar cookies with our kids – the kind you make with cookie cutters. We just love it!
And although this approach works wonderfully when you’re whipping out dozens of cookies, when talking about a diet, the cookie-cutter approach only proves to be a flop.
That is one thing we absolutely love about Peace with Food. It discards this cookie-cutter formula and instead encourages a custom-fit plan for each individual. Imagine that, a tailored plan, customized specifically for you! (Which, by the way, takes into account your preferences and helps you work with them leaving you feeling satisfied and at peace rather than deprive you of them.)
It is really similar to everything else in life. Think about it. How do you raise your kids? How do you spend your money? How do you handle your relationships? Is there any aspect of your life in which you do every thing exactly like anyone else, even your closest friends and confidants?
Similar? Maybe. Exactly alike? Impossible. That’s because you are the only one living with your life, circumstances, preferences, and propensities. You are unique. Embrace it!!
What might work marvelously for one may be a totally dud for another. That’s okay. That just gives us the freedom to be our selves.
So, if you are tired of trying to fit into someone else’s mold, let it go. Find what works for you and then go with it. Life is too short to live by someone else’s formula.
You are a one-of-a-kind masterpiece! Living at Peace with Food will help you find your custom-fit plan, tailored specifically for you!
I have to admit I am a total junkie for the Your E Cards that have been popping up all over Facebook and Pinterest, but this one really pushes my buttons. When my son was born my husband and I made the decision together that I would leave my job and stay home to raise our kids. I understand that this choice is not something that is possible for every family and that there are many women who may not want to leave their career. However, I am finding there is still a disrespect for the stay-at-home mom with the “What do you do all day” AtTiTuDe and in turn the working moms seem to face the, “Oh you’re so lucky you get a break at work” NoNsEnSe!
Keep in mind…I’m not an expert. I am basically going off of my own experience and that of my sister who is a working mom of a 3 1/2 year old. In this day and age we are all just trying to get through the day whether we work or not. When are we all going to WaKe Up and realize that stay-at-home, working, part-time, full-time, married, divorced…WhAtEvEr…we are in this together. Instead of putting others down or making them feel inferior maybe we should take a minute and think of what their day might be like. I think a better rule of thumb would be…
Don’t Judge Until You’ve
Walked A Mile In Their Shoes
~Robyn (Jersey Girl)
This past weekend my son went to a 5th birthday party for his friend, but instead of bringing a present for the Birthday Boy, he brought a bathing suit that will be donated along with a sackful of others to children who until now didn’t own a bathing suit of their own. My friend Bridget started a tradition in her family where her boys choose a charity to collect items for in lieu of gifts at their birthday parties. I was so ImPrEsSeD with the uniqueness of this idea that I had to share it with all of you! I hope it will touch your HeArTs as it has mine and that maybe you will start a similar tradition with your children as I plan to do with my kids in the future!
Cael with all of the bathing suits he is donating to the children who attend Camp Hope NJ!
RoByN: What first gave you the idea to collect something for charity in lieu of gifts at your kid’s birthday parties?
BrIdGeT: The idea really came just because they have so many toys and what more could they possibly get??? We like to have big parties, but I (selfishly) couldn’t stand the thought of another 20+ toys in the house.
RoByN: Did your boys give you a hard time at first?
BrIdGeT: They never had a problem with it (surprisingly). They are given a choice of a big party with donations or a special birthday experience with 2 friends. They always choose the party. We then take some time to find a charity that they are excited about donating to. Of course, they still get presents from us and our families.
RoByN: How did you hear about Kids4Kids Project Camp Hope, the camp that your son chose to collect swim suits for at his recent birthday party?
BrIdGeT: We heard about Kids4Kids Camp Hope through my older son’s school. They were collecting suits this spring for the camp and it seemed to be a great fit for a summer birthday.
RoByN: What other charities have you donated to in the past for others who are looking for ideas to get started?
BrIdGeT: We have donated to The Pajama Program, Toys for Tots, and I also looked into toy donations for The Valerie Fund.
RoByN: What do you hope the children attending the parties will learn from bringing something for someone in need?
BrIdGeT: My kids have learned that it actually makes them pretty happy to help other people. It’s the reminder they need once in a while to show them how fortunate they truly are. There are so many great charities that the kids can relate to so that they are excited when the donations come in. Cael was so happy yesterday to see that someone donated an Angry Birds bathing suit! So I’m hoping other kids will learn that giving to others can also make them pretty happy too!
~Robyn (Jersey Girl)
Over the course of your life you develop numerous friendships. Family friends, elementary school friends, high school friends, college friends, work friends, neighborhood friends, parenting friends, and the list goes on and on. In recent years the use of Facebook has become a way to rekindle friendships that fell to the way side or even ignite friendships with people who at one time were just acquaintances. In our busy day-to-day lives it can be hard to Be TheRe for all of these friends or to even set aside a time to get together and catch up. However in the back of our minds there are always those friends who you know would drop everything in an instant if you needed them.
Over four years ago I delivered my son three weeks early after being induced for preeclampsia. One day after I returned home with my newborn I was rushed to the emergency room with dangerously high blood pressure. I spent the next three days hooked up to a magnesium drip to get my blood pressure under control. I was already feeling the onset of postpartum depression (click to read my story) and all of the medication I was now taking made me completely disoriented. I was in and out of sleep, my vision was blurry, and my head felt like I had been hit my a truck. While laying in my hospital bed missing my newborn baby boy I looked at the door and was able to make out the outline of someone walking in. I knew immediately it was my friend Jessica and in that moment I felt peace. Jessica and I have known each other since we took dancing school together at age four. We’ve been through so much together and no distance or circumstance has ever kept us apart when it CoUnTs. That day in the hospital I couldn’t talk or even see her clearly, but that didn’t matter. She sent my mom home to shower and sat and read magazines while she watched me rest. She called in sick to work that day because she knew I needed her and to this day I am GrAtEfUl.
The Tracy Lawrence song “Find Out Who Your Friends Are” has always reminded me of our friendship. I am sure you all have your own “Jessica” in your lives and can relate to the lyrics.
~Robyn (Jersey Girl)
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Last Friday I made my 9 day promise to be a more patient mommy and not “LoSe It” when things get out of control. Within 3 hours of the post going up I was already struggling to keep my cool when my kids seemed to be on an all out crusade to do the opposite of anything I was asking them to do! Thankfully my husband stepped in and told me to go out and run my errands by myself. I got in my mommy mini-van and listened to my Christmas music and savored each uninterrupted moment I had as I drove. While I was out I sent Lara a text saying that I seemed to be FaILiNg miserably at my 9 day promise. She wrote back some great advice…”Actions are stronger than words.” Now when my kids act up instead of yelling I am taking Lara’s advice and am just moving them to time-out without saying anything. They are old enough to know why they are in trouble without me going on and on about it and saying nothing keeps me from “losing it”. By the time their time-out is over I can talk to them about what they did in a calm manner.
When working on your Live-It List, think about the people you can ReLy on to help you be successful. Whether it be skydiving or completing a quilt, think of the people in your life that you can reach out to who can help you AcHieVe your goals!
~Robyn (Jersey Girl)
It is so EaSy to get caught up in every thing that is going “WrOnG” in our life that we can ToTallY miss ALL the good things that have happened to us. If you’re in the habit of attending PiTy PaRtiEs for yourself, why not try having a GrAtiTuDe PaRty and CouNt all the BleSsInGs you have in your life. Maybe you are struggling financially, but do you have your health or people you LoVe? Maybe your issues are health ones, but do you have trusted FrIenDs or FaiTh In GoD?
One of the ItEmS on my “LiVe It” list is to list 100 GoOd THinGs that have happened in my LiFe. I hope to keep it handy for those days when things just don’t seem to go my way.
Is it time for you to make your LiSt?
This past week the phrase “I Love You Anyway” became a popular saying in our house. I did something that I knew disappointed my husband. Feeling terrible after I saw the let down on his face I asked, “But you love me anyway, right?” He replied, “Of CouRse.”
Then a few days later, my daughter broke one of my favorite Christmas ornaments. Initially I gasped, but after seeing how terrible she felt I said, “Leanne…it is oKaY. Accidents happen. I LoVe you anyway.”
I am so gRateFul for the people in my life that will love me anyway…no matter if I ruin their favorite shirt…cancel on a play-date because I’m feeling overwhelmed as a Mom…or call them to vent and never ask them how their day is going.
Everyone needs someone in their life that will show unconditional loVe whether it be a friend, family member, spouse or pet (and of course Jesus! Can I get an “Amen?!”). Maybe it is time to return the favor and show someone you love them back, even though they hurt you recently or did something that bothered you. Remember how great it feels to be loved “anyway”, and give it to another in return.
P.S. These roses were a “surprise” from Doug and Leanne after church on Sunday. Just another reminder that I am LoVed AnYwAy! Now it’s time for me to pass it on….
As I CeLebRate my son’s 4th birthday this week and my daughter’s 2nd birthday next month, I also celebrate the amazing gift of mOtherHood. Always knowing that being a mom was the #1 goal of my life, I couldn’t understand why I was constantly crying after I brought my son home from the hospital. Baby blues quickly turned to full blown postpartum depression. Thoughts like, “What was I thinking when I wanted to have a baby,” “Am I ever going to have a conversation with my husband again,” and “I just want to be me again” raced through my head.
Feelings of shame, guilt, and fear felt like they were suffocating me. I even thought my son might be better off without me. I thank God for my wonderful friends, family, and doctors for Getting Me throuGh my darkest moments. With therapy and medication I slowly got better and became the mother I so longed to be.
Two years later I delivered my beAutiful baby girl and like a dark cloud drifting over me, my PPD was back. As I held my daughter in my hospital bed, I looked at my husband and said, “It’s back.” You would think it would be easier the second time but it was actually worse. I knew the scary thoughts…I had just lived them two years ago. “Why me” was all I could think this time.
Both bouts with PPD lasted about 2 months. I try not to dwell on those days as time lost with my babies, but as times that made me FiGht to be the mother I am today. I now know that there is No ShaMe in having PPD, it wasn’t my fault that I got it, and with help you can get through it. Whether you or someone you know is going through PPD or any obstacle, remember you CAN get through it and are stronger than you think!
~Robyn (Jersey Girl)
We absolutely LOVE summer and the 4th of JULY!!!
We wish you a wonderful Independence Day! Thanks for being our friends!!
Did you ever have a penpal? Back in elementary school I remember our teacher assigning us one as a class project. My penpal’s name was Alexis, from Pennsylvania. The thrill of running to the mailbox to see if there was a letter from her (and maybe even a picture included!) is a memory I won’t forget. How cool it was to have a conversation and friendship with a person whom I had never met living life a thousand miles away.
I’ve had the fortune through my internet business to develop similar “penpal” relationships with people all across the country. Shauna is from Utah. She helped me get started with my block business. When I was going to be featured in Baby Talk magazine, Heather from California gave me tips on what to expect with the increase in customers. I was even a bit of an inspiration to Robyn from New Jersey, to encourage her to start her own craft business on the internet.
Similar to my elementary school days, these are my modern day “penpals” who I visit with on occasion and we share our thoughts and successes. I consider these women my friends, even though I am in the middle of the country and they are states away in opposite directions. Technology CAN be such a wonderful thing!