Don’t you appreciate it when someone is completely HonEst with you about a situation you have been secretly struggling with? As soon as they open up, you immediately think, “What a relief! I thought I was the OnLy oNe dealing with that!”
When you get in those situations, do you return the FaVor by opening up to them, or do you AcT like you can’t relate because you don’t want to admit your faults in fear that it could ruin your reputation of appearing PerfecT?
You can’t expect to GaiN a lot from others if you aren’t expecting to open up with them in return. People that open a door and “hear crickets” are likely to not open that door again. So next time someone ShaRes a deep thought, at the very least, show empathy or appreciation for their honesty. ExPress to them that their openness helps you with your own personal struggles and gives ComFort in knowing that you are not the “only one” that goes through stuff like that!
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“ThErApiSts” and can come in many forms. For some it is a ProFesSioNaL who has spent years in school learning to HeLp others. For others it is a trusted FriEnD or CoNfiDaNt. For my husband it is our chocolate lab, WaLtEr. One of my “therapists” is “RuNniNg.
If you are needing a BoOsT, maybe it is time to go to the person or thing that LiFts your SpiRiTs.
What is your “therapist”?
One of my favorite things about the internet is YouTube. (Have you noticed?!) At different times I will check out a favorite song. Maybe it’s a song from the 80’s or 90’s as I reminisce about those high school and college days, a sentimental/NoStaLgiC song, a favorite love song, an inspirational song, a song to pump me up, an oldie, or a new hit. When it comes to music there is something for everyone. It’s for that reason I have found a new GiFt to give my friends, family, and loved ones: a music video via an email.
Are you wanting to do something special for someone, but don’t know what? Why not send an email with a HeArTfeLt message and a YouTube link to a song that is significant to your relationship? Maybe it’s a funny song that you enjoyed with a high school classmate or a love song that means something special between you and your spouse. Whatever you may want to say, most likely there is a SoNg that says it perfectly.
Need ideas? Here’s one to get you started. I hope you enjoy!!
It seems like I have always tried to lose weight. When I had a baby, it was a cHallenGe to get back to my previous weight. Even during my pre-kid days, I was trying different weight loss tactics to shed those last several pounds. This year I’ve had my BEST SUCCESS at eating right and in moderation, thanks to one thing…my accountability partner!
In the past, I remember wanting to ask someone to hold me accountable for my weight loss. Subconsciously though, I knew if I ever wanted to quit my diet, I could give up and no one
would know. In reAlity, I was setting myself up to fail before I ever started! Asking someone to hold you accountable is scary, but in the end, it will determine how serious you really are about wanting to cHanGe.
Finding the right person to share your jouRney with is important. My accountability person is someone that I don’t necessarily see often, but who I have to share my weigh-in number with every week. We don’t work out together, but text or call each other with what we are up to (good and bad). You must be comFortable enough with this person so you can “be real” and trust that even if you gain a pound or two, they won’t judge you but continue to enCouRage.
Is there a habit you can’t kick? Perhaps you should REACH OUT to a good friend and ask them for help. It not only will strengthen your relationship with them, but have poSitiVe Results on achieving your goal!
P.S — A big shout-out to my accountability partner today! Wouldn’t have the success I’m having if it wasn’t for YOU!! Thanks :)
Is the “rock” in your life a sister, coworker, friend, spouse, neighbor, child, or maybe your faith? Who do turn to when you need good aDviCe or words of CoMfoRt? Are YOU a rock for someone?
Having a rock (or two!) makes life EASIER. My “rock” is someone that loves ME unconditionally, AccEpTs my faults and shines light on my strengths. My rock puts my mind at ease and alleviates any stress through their presence. After a bad day, there is nowhere else I’d rather be than with MY ROCK.
Have you told YOUR ROCK how much you appreciate them lately? It is easy to take for granted the people that help us most. This week, try to do or say something special to your rock. You never know, this SIMPLE ACT may be perfect timing to return the favor!