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Why Diets Don’t Work: Reason #9

Reason #9: Diets Leave you Deeper in the Hole (but Peace with Food Brings You Freedom)

(Stay with us…Sunday is our last day of discussing “Why Diets Don’t Work”! We’ll be diving in to Peace with Food (PWF) on Monday!)

Last weekend, Lara’s daughter learned to ride her bike. Do you remember that feeling? Taking off those training wheels for the last time was liberating, wasn’t it?! That moment—when a loved one let go of your seat and you realized YOU. WERE. DOING. IT. –what a huge stepping stone in life that was. With every push of the pedal you felt the freeing sensation take over your mind and body. Your confidence began to soar and your heart experienced a new sense of happiness. The wind cooled your face as you accelerated with every push…the fresh air as you breathed in through your nose…and the smile on your face as you rode off into the sunset…Ah… sweet freedom…

This is Peace with Food, our dear friends. We know you may question if this type of life is truly attainable, but you have to trust us. It is. Like riding a bike, it will take time. You will fall down and have to dust yourself off a time or two. But like you know, you don’t have to do it alone. When you learned to ride your bike, you had an experienced biker teach you how. They held the seat to keep your balance until you were ready for them to let go. Well we are here to do that for you too. We are going to give you the tools and support to have this peace and freedom we keep talking about. We will share with you the ways we’ve been able to stay the course, and before you know it, you too will be ready to ride into the wind…solo.Bike

We know you are ready. We’ve really been hammering out why diets don’t work, and we are excited that you are so anxious to start applying Peace with Food. We’ll be doing that very, very soon. But as you know, diets are a quick fix because they can list a few rules that you can dreadfully follow for a few days. But if you want prolonged happiness it will require more time and participating in the entire process. There is a method to our madness, so stay with us. There is much more to come…

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Take-Home Message:

Peace with Food gives an amazing sense of freedom.

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Why Diets Don’t Work: Reason #7 and #8

Reason #7:  Diets Are Not Transferable to the Rest of Your Life

Reason #8:  Diets Focus on the Distant Future

**Stay with us…Sunday is our last day of discussing “Why Diets Don’t Work”! We’ll be diving in to Peace with Food (PWF) on Monday!**

Guess what? When we started having peace with food we quickly realized something: Other areas of our life were improving as well! It was crazy—not only were we experiencing peace with food but, without realizing it, we began applying the same principles to other areas of our life. Before we knew it, we could see the quality of our relationships and experiences increasing. Life, overall, just kept getting better and better!

We have to admit, realizing that our Peace with Food concept was spilling over into other areas of our life took us by complete surprise. When we decided to kick diets to the curb a few years ago, we really had no idea what direction we were headed. We just knew the outcome we wanted: to be able to live in peace and no longer let someone (or something) take control of our lives.

So how did we get there? We experimented. With every day, we tried, and tweaked, and tried again—committed to find a way to break free of the leash that had us by the ankles for years. Every time we felt restricted or uneasy, we dissected the situation to see how we could make changes to have more peace. This process became so normal that we naturally did it in all areas of our life. Day by day we continued to adjust and make changes, and with every step we began to feel more liberated.hawaii-3

This brings us to another cool thing about Peace with Food. From the moment you decide to embrace its lifestyle, you instantly feel your internal peace-gauge go up simply by saying good-bye to that old restricted way of life. Diets, on the other hand, instantly force you to give up savored aspects of life because their rules don’t accommodate them. They focus on giving you happiness in the distant future—whenever it is that you actually reach your goal weight. Sadly, most of us never even get there, so we never get to relish in that state of happiness.

Gladly, you don’t have to worry about that any more. Peace with Food can set you free the second you decide to allow it. Better yet, your entire life will improve because of it. All you have to do is take the first step and we’ll help guide you the rest of the way. More to come…

Lara & Robynn

 

Take-Home Message:

Peace with Food not only improves your relationship with food, but all other areas of your life. It also allows you to enjoy life right away.

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Why Diets Don’t Work: Reason #1

Sugar Cookies

Reason #1:  Diets use a cookie-cutter approach.

At Christmas season one of our favorite activities is making sugar cookies with our kids – the kind you make with cookie cutters.  We just love it!

And although this approach works wonderfully when you’re whipping out dozens of cookies, when talking about a diet, the cookie-cutter approach only proves to be a flop.

That is one thing we absolutely love about Peace with Food. It discards this cookie-cutter formula and instead encourages a custom-fit plan for each individual. Imagine that, a tailored plan, customized specifically for you! (Which, by the way, takes into account your preferences and helps you work with them leaving you feeling satisfied and at peace rather than deprive you of them.)

It is really similar to everything else in life.  Think about it.  How do you raise your kids?  How do you spend your money?  How do you handle your relationships?  Is there any aspect of your life in which you do every thing exactly like anyone else, even your closest friends and confidants?

Similar?  Maybe.  Exactly alike?  Impossible.  That’s because you are the only one living with your life, circumstances, preferences, and propensities.  You are unique.  Embrace it!!

What might work marvelously for one may be a totally dud for another. That’s okay. That just gives us the freedom to be our selves.

So, if you are tired of trying to fit into someone else’s mold, let it go.  Find what works for you and then go with it.  Life is too short to live by someone else’s formula.

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Take-Home Message:

You are a one-of-a-kind masterpiece!  Living at Peace with Food will help you find your custom-fit plan, tailored specifically for you!

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This is My Story . . .

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We all have a story that defines who we are.

In this story are woven the threads of our dreams, hopes, fears, disappointments, circumstances, and our past – uniquely making us a one-of-a-kind masterpiece.

Part of my story includes my struggle with food beginning in high school.  I vividly remember weighing in at 98 lbs. during gymnastics in junior high.  But by the end of my sophomore year of high school I was up to 143 lbs – a whopping 45-lb. weight gain on my 5’4 medium size frame.  I had to do something and I had to do it fast!

That was when I began my career of dieting.

Being athletic and participating in a whole lot of sports and activities allowed me to get back down to a normal weight but I was never quite satisfied with my body. This led to the perpetual chase of the “ideal weight” carrot. Know what I’m talking about?  It is crazy, but that is how I lived for so many years of my life.

It was my normal, my landscape.

But I can actually say that it all changed when I began living at Peace with Food.  That is not to say I don’t have an ideal weight, because I do, but this time it is more of an optimal weight range than an unrealistic all-time-low number.  No more of this all-or-nothing mindset.  Enough of the obsession!

How did I get this peace?  Here it is in a nutshell.  I began believing that I could do it and I changed the way I thought about my situation.  That was step one.  It was a big step that took me years.  But even in believing that I could have Peace with Food (and peace with my body) didn’t result in it magically appearing.  After years of failed attempts, saying I was frustrated with my situation is putting it mildly.  I needed practical steps to take and the skills to carry it out.  I needed to find the answer to my dilemma, the combination to the lock.  Enter Peace with Food.

As I began writing this post I really had to ask myself, “What is my purpose for sharing this part of my life? Is it to inspire, motivate, entertain?”  I think it can be all of these, but more than that, I feel a calling to help others in their journey to Peace with Food.  That’s my mission, my assignment – to share with others what I have learned in the decades I’ve spent struggling with food and help them experience peace and freedom.

When I was in college, my Biochem instructor would always say in his Indian accent, “Take-home-message.”  We knew that when he uttered these three choppy words we needed to take note because the point he was about to make was of utmost importance.  That is what I hope to leave in every Peace with Food post.  A take-home message.  A nugget that will help you live at greater Peace with Food.

So here’s the Take-Home Message:

No matter what your story is, you can have Peace with Food.  No matter what your beginning is, you can rewrite the end.

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P. S.  Stay tuned for Lara’s Story . . .

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Declutter Your Life

In the last month or so I have made a lot of ChaNgeS in my life.  First off, I recently had another garage sale which proved to be just as successful as the one in the fall.  I finally have a clutter free home.  I made a point to go through EVERYTHING, and if I didn’t LOVE IT, I sold it.  There were things that were hard to get rid of, mainly due to habit and feeling like I “had” to keep it around the house “just in case”.  Let me tell ya, it was worth it because everything is organized and I can keep better tabs on what we need and what we don’t. declutter-wordle1

Once I was able to declutter my home, it was only natural to want to DecLutteR other areas of my life.  Several weeks ago, Robyn wrote a post called iPhone Mommy.  It struck a chord with me.  For months I had been feeling like the internet and social media were a huge distraction and temptation.  I wish I was like those of you that are disciplined when it comes to social media, but I am not.  I kept making excuses that I HAD to check my facebook several times a day to make sure I wasn’t missing personal messages or notifications from groups I am involved in.  Robyn’s post motivated me to make some cHaNgeS once and for all.  I tied up lose ends with my personal FB messages and notified leaders to any of my groups.  I told these people that I wouldn’t be checking facebook as often and to contact me via email or phone if they needed something right away.  Everyone has been very understanding and I guess I figured if someone needed me bad enough, they could find a way.  It was really that simple!  Now, I only check facebook once every couple of weeks, which allows me to catch up on information or messages I may have missed!

To take things one step further, I changed the settings on my phone so I no longer get an email “ring” for new emails AND I deleted the facebook icon so I’m not tempted to check it.  This has made a huge difference when I am around my kids.  My phone isn’t dinging all the time and we spend more quality time together in random places.  When we use to wait in the car I would sit there and read the internet while they were in the backseat.  Now we try to play games or talk about fun stuff!  In addition, if we are playing and the phone rings, I don’t answer when I feel like the kids are really engaged in what we are doing.  Several times they’ve asked, “Mom, aren’t you going to get the phone?” and I say, “No, I want to play with you right now.”  The look and smile on their faces when I say that….PRICELESS :)

Last but not least, I am writing to say that Robynn, Robyn (Jersey Girl) and I are going to take the summer off in regards to blog posting.  We don’t want to give it up for good because we really enjoy writing and sHaRinG things with you.  But, like we talk about so often, if it doesn’t bring you PEACE then you need to make some changes.  Now that the kids are going to be home all summer we feel that not being tied to anything (a.k.a the blog) will bring us the most peace.  We know you understand, and we thank you for that.  The plan is to pick up in September once kiddos are back in the grind of school.  I didn’t even put a dent in my “Home Makeover Series” so I hope to share more of that with you, along with the normal LIFE posts that I share.

I hope that this lengthy (sorry! *wink*) post has encouraged you to declutter areas in your own life.  I cannot tell you how much jOy and fReedoM it has brought to mine.

Have a wonderful and memorable summer and we look forward to writing in the fall!

Cheers,

Lara

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America Is…

Happy InDePeNdEnCe DaY from The Suede Sofa!  As we celebrate our FrEeDoM we thought we would share our thoughts on what America means to us.

Robyn: Living in New Jersey, America to me is having the opportunity to take my kids to Ellis Island and show them where my great grandparents became United States citizens, seeing the Statue of Liberty, and catching a Broadway play all in one day!  Then hopping in the car and in an hour or so putting our feet in the sand and soaking up the sun on the same beach that my grandparents took my mom to 60 years ago!

Nicholas’ first trip to see The Statue of Liberty

Abby at Chadwick Beach New Jersey!

Selling lemonade at the beach!

Lara: America to me is continuing my husband’s 5th generation farm legacy of helping feed America and the world.

Garrett and Leanne 2012

Counting Pollination!

Robynn:

Red, white & blue waffles!!

Family fun cooling down at the pool!

Family fun cooling down at the pool!!

Fireworks!!

We thought Rodney Atkin’s song, It’s America was perfect to kick off our 4th of July…we hope you enjoy it too!

We love to hear from our readers.  Leave your comments and let us know what America is to you!

Happy 4th of July!!

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