I recently I spoke with a friend who was hurt about not being included in a DeCisiOn that the rest of her family made without her. The situation could have been avoided by simply picking up the phone or sending a quick email. Instead, everyone got busy with life, assumed that she would be okay with it, and she ended up feeling left out and unloved.
Our hectic lives cause us to oVerLook how our decisions and actions are affecting others. Many relationships are damaged because people don’t take the TiMe to share simple details and make sure everyone is included.
As the holidays are approaching this is an important time to keep the lines of communication open. One idea is sending out a large email to everyone in the group (make sure you send it to EvERyOnE!!). Each person hits “reply all” when giving their input, and having dates/ specifics in writing is another helpful way to avoid ConFuSion down the road. This simple way of communication gives everyone an equal opportunity to share their ideas and no one feels left out.
Start your holiday planning off right! ChriStmAs here we come :)
Do you ever have one of those MoMenTs in an email conversation or text where you read the comment and your response is, “That was RUDE! I can’t believe they said that!”
That is the unfortunate ConseQuenCe of written communication. People don’t have the ability to interject tone or emphasis on particular words, and a lot of times, that tone or emphasis is the main form of communication.
Let’s analyze the question, “Are we having goulash again for supper tonight?” If I’m a fan of goulash I will emphasize GoULaSh. “Are we having GoULaSh again for supper tonight?” However if I loathe goulash I will emphasize AGAIN. “Are we having goulash AGAIN for supper tonight?” (As a side note, this is how my husband would respond. Ha!)
We should all make a conscious effort to not overanalyze written communication. We could totally MisinTerpRet what the writer was trying to say and generate some hard feelings for no good reason.
Have you ever said something to someone, and after thinking about it later, ReAlized they may have taken it the wrong way and got their FeelinGs hurt?
A similar situation happened to me this week in an email message, and even though I was pretty sure this person didn’t take it the wrong way, it didn’t settle with me not knowing for sure. I decided to email her back and apoloGize if I may have come across the wrong way and eXpLaiNed my reasoning for saying what I did. As soon as I hit “send” I immediately felt better. Knowing that I was able to ClariFy what had happened put me at eAse versus always wondering if I had hurt her feelings.
Picking up the phone or sending a message to clear some possible confusion or tension is hard to do but always leaves you with much Relief. I never regret going out of my way to apoloGize or make sure I’m on the same page with a person. Is there a situation you need to clear up with someone? Often times the other person didn’t take it the wrong way and bringing it up won’t only show how much you care, but also put an end to your worries!
Have you ever left a message for someone who didn’t return your call/text/email and thought, “HoW RuDe!”? I have to admit, this has happened to me on numerous occasions. The main problem with this attitude is that I do the very same thing, but I don’t consider myself being rude or inconsiderate. Instead, I’m “busy”, or I’ll eventually get around to responding.
The last time I was indignant with someone not returning my call I was reminded of my double standard and I vowed to make a change. Very often all that is needed is a quick reply such as:
“S o u n d s G o o d”, “O k”, “=)”, or “I’ll get in touch with you when I know more.”
So that’s my my goal. Hit that “RepLy” button immediately, return the call, or text an answer back and do as the GoLdeN RuLe says:
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”