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Mommy Guilt

I have yet to talk to another Mom that doesn’t feel guilty about some area of MotHeRhooD.  Do you feel like you don’t spend enough time with your kids?  Aren’t as good of a Mom as the friend down the street? Feel bad that you overcooked dinner for the family?  Unfortunately, most Moms could make an infinite list of questions because we never FEEL like we’re good enough.

Whether you are a Mom or not, we all know what guilt feels like.  Guilt is usually caused by ComParinG ourselves to someone else.  Comparisons are PointLess because every person’s situation is different.  Remember that YOU are a good Mom because YOU are doing the best that YOU can for your situation.  I sometimes feel guilt for not sending my daughter to preschool, but I know that I will ReGrEt not spending that last year at home with her.  People assume that I don’t spend time with my kids because I have a home business, but they don’t know I get up early so I can get most of my stuff done before they get out of bed.  I know the reasons why I do what I do and when I start to feel guilty I have to quickly remind myself that this is the best thing for MY situation.

I know this post won’t cure your Mommy guilt indefinitely, but as a Mom I know how important it is to be reminded to not be so hard on myself.  Stop comparing yourself to other Moms and focus on the things you do well. Ask yourself this:  If I wasn’t aware of what others were doing, would I feel guilty about______?  Do things that your heart naturally tells you to do. No one knows your situation better than YOU so stop letting others control how you feel.

~Lara

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