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{Love That Never Fails}

My Wedding Day

A few months back, my fellow blogger, Robyn (Jersey Girl) shared a list of her plans in her youth that she was able to say, “Check, check, and check” to.  {Click here for her story}  Well…
My life didn’t go exactly like pLaNnEd.  My check off list in high school/college included:
  1. Get married right out of college.
  2. Have four or five children before age 30 (3 boys and 1 or 2 girls and in that order).

Hey, I’m a planner and that’s what planners do!   Well, man’s mind plans his way, but it’s the Lord’s purpose that will PrEvAiL!   And my plans were obviously not God’s purpose.

So there I found myself single and 30-SoMeThInG.  (I didn’t get married until I was 35.)  What’s a girl to do?  I can actually say that I was very content being single.  Did I want to get married, absolutely, but I really did enjoy all the luxuries of single-hood.  It wasn’t always easy and at times it was lonely, but I was content.

If you find yourself in the single stage of life and wish you had a significant other, here’s some input that may help:

  • Enjoy the FrEeDoM of single-hood.  You get to call all the shots!
  • Develop yourself as a person.  Become a person of MoRaL ChArAcTeR that a future spouse would find attractive.
  • PrAy for God’s direction regarding finding the right person and the grace to help you through!
  • Do all those things that you’ve been wanting to do, but that may be difficult to do once you’re married.  (I was able to visit family in Asia, which may not have been possible as a married person.)
  • Cultivate close relationships with family and friends.  Develop close friendships with other singles.
  • Get yourself in a position of FiNaNciaL freedom.
  • Focus on your career and/or professional life.  Maybe it is time to venture out and take a risk in starting the business/career you’ve been dreaming about.

Fortunately, after the long wait, I was blessed with a WoNderFuL husband.  He’s funny, caring, generous, laid back, and fun to be around.  I loved my life as a single person and I love my life now.  I’m sure to many, my life now may look boring.  My idea of a great evening is hanging out, At HoMe, with my family and friends!  It may not seem exciting to some, but I’m very CoNtEnT and happy.  And I’m not going to MeSs WiTh “HaPpY”!

So, if you’re single and wishing you were not, hang in there.  This song is dedicated to you and anyone, for that matter, married or single, looking for love that never fails.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

;) Robynn

Your Love Never Fails Lyrics

Nothing can separate

Even if I ran away

Your love never fails

I know I still make mistakes

But You have new mercies for me everyday

Your love never fails

Chorus: You stay the same through the ages

Your love never changes

There maybe pain in the night but joy comes in the morning

And when the oceans rage

I don’t have to be afraid

Because I know that You love me

Your love never fails

Verse 2: The wind is strong and the water’s deep

But I’m not alone in these open seas

Cause Your love never fails

The chasm is far too wide

I never thought I’d reach the other side

But Your love never fails

Bridge: You make all things work together for my good

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ME

The other night my family and I were hanging out after dinner.  Doug and my daughter, Leanne, were snuggled up on the couch.  I wasn’t really paying attention until I heard Doug ask, “Leanne, what do you want to be when you grow up?”

She paused for a second, and then replied, “I want to be me!”

I immediately stopped what I was doing.  Time stood still for a second.  Me….I want to be ME.  That answer kept repeating over and over in my head.  I want to be me when I grow up…who ever thinks to say that?  Is that even an option to choose from?

I’m still in awe of hearing those words, and am reMinDed of all the things we can learn from children.  They are so innocent, full of energy and confidence.  Isn’t that the way we all want to live?  And why can’t we?  Why can’t you just want to be YOU?

It is easy to always want what we don’t have.  The cars, the body, the money, the career, the perfect family…we constantly pick and choose areas in people’s life that we ‘want to be when we grow up’.  The reality is, the people you want to be like, also want more in life. It is a vicious cycle and impossible to keep up.

Why do we do this to ourselves?  It is so exhausting!  We get so foCuSed on wanting to be someone else that we forget to APPRECIATE what has already be given to us.  Be happy being YOU.  YOU have something that no one else does.  Don’t be so quick to wish it away.  Enjoy it!

~Lara

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{Don’t Mess With “Happy”}

Subscribers:  So sorry for the technical difficulties you had in retrieving this post from the notification email sent to you by Suede Sofa!!  I had some issues in posting this today.  Please forgive me!!

My husband, a sports buff, was telling me this story about how a collegiate coach was CoNteMpLaTing whether or not he should take a different coaching position.  It would pay more money and bring more presitge, however, it would require that his family move to another city.  Both he and his family were very HaPpY where they were.  Not only did the coach love his job and his life, so did his family.  As the coach debated over taking the new position a very wise person told him this:

“Don’t MeSs with happy.”

Good advice.

It is so easy to always want something just a little bit better, even though in reality, you are actually quite happy with what you have.  Maybe it’s the house and neighborhood you live in, but due to pressure from the {Jones’} you feel the “need” to get a newer or better one.  Or take, for example, your job.  It could be that you LoVe your job and are completely happy there.  You just wish you got paid a bit more.

Next time you want to make a change, it may be time to ask yourself if you’re happy right where you are.  You may find that even with circumstances less than IdEaL you still are happy.  If so, are you sure you want to mess with “happy”?

;) Robynn

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