I love the HoLiDaYs. If you’ve been reading our recent posts you may already know that. However, my EnThUsiaSm and JoY is tempered with CoMpaSsioN for others because I know of many who are going through great PaiN and SorRoW at this very moment. Some have lost jobs or struggle to make ends meet, others have been given a grim diagnosis, and others have experienced loss in one form or another. My heart goes out to them, because although I may not be feeling that kind of pain at the moment, I have felt it in the past and it HuRtS.
WhErE aRe YoU? Maybe your life at the moment is pure bliss. Or maybe you are experiencing the extreme opposite. Or maybe you are somewhere in-between. Where ever you are…
He’s either in because you’ve let Him in or He’s KnOcKiNg at the door, but in either case, He’s there.
If your life is full of cheer ShArE it with someone not as fortunate.
If your life is full of pain and saddness turn to the source of CoMfOrT, PeAcE, and JoY because…
He’s only a prayer away.
Don’t you appreciate it when someone is completely HonEst with you about a situation you have been secretly struggling with? As soon as they open up, you immediately think, “What a relief! I thought I was the OnLy oNe dealing with that!”
When you get in those situations, do you return the FaVor by opening up to them, or do you AcT like you can’t relate because you don’t want to admit your faults in fear that it could ruin your reputation of appearing PerfecT?
You can’t expect to GaiN a lot from others if you aren’t expecting to open up with them in return. People that open a door and “hear crickets” are likely to not open that door again. So next time someone ShaRes a deep thought, at the very least, show empathy or appreciation for their honesty. ExPress to them that their openness helps you with your own personal struggles and gives ComFort in knowing that you are not the “only one” that goes through stuff like that!
Do you have one? A StRoNg-WiLLeD ChiLd, that is. I actually have two, but my youngest is the one with the strongest will. You better believe that she can throw a full-fledged fit and scream at the top of her lungs for hours on end. Literally. I wonder how I ended up with not one, but two of these precious little darlings. After all, I was the compliant child and what you sow you reap, right?
My response to this mayhem? I refuse to be manhandled by a 3-year old. So, BriNg iT DaRLiN’ because If wE tAnGo I promise you, I will always win. I do tell her that frequently. We even rehearse this dialog often:
MOM: “Who is in charge?”
CHILD: “You are.”
MOM: “So, that means that who is NOT in charge?”
CHILD: “We (her and her sister) are not in charge.”
Besides my children, there is another strong-willed child I have to deal with almost every day – a.k.a. ME!! It’s that undisciplined part of me that only wants convenience and comfort. It willingly cooperates, but only if it doesn’t involve sacrifice and hardship of any kind.
This strong-willed child is my public enemy number one. It is 99% of my problems. It’s what stands between me and my goals. It refuses to cooperate with my plans, wants its own way, and will throw a fit if it doesn’t get it.
How do I handle this strong-willed child? The same way I handle my strong-willed 3-year old. Sheer determination to be the LaSt oNe StAnDiNg. Feelings, comfort, and convenience will have to take backseat, because I will win this one. I promise.