We can all think of a time when we wanted to isolate ourselves from the wOrLd. We believe if we didn’t have jobs, we wouldn’t have to deal with stress or deadlines. If we could disconnect ourselves with people—family, friends, strangers—we’d never have to deal with awkward moments or conflict. If we didn’t have to run errands, we could avoid being reminded of how great everyone else “has it” when we are out and about.
As the year of 2012 wrapped up, I found myself thinking a lot about all the awkward, uncomfortable, stressful and difficult moments of the year. And you know what I realized? If I was able to erase those moments of my life, I would have been missing out. If I would have quit my block business after making some stressful mistakes, I would no longer get to experience the J O Y I receive when customers send me thank you notes after their blocks arrive. I could have avoided an awkward moment by not talking to a stranger on a plane, but I would have missed out on an aMaZinG cOnVerSatiOn about his faith journey. Not to mention the moments with friends and family through the year that involved moments of frustration, confusion or discomfort. If I never had those interactions, our relationships wouldn’t be as close as they are today, let alone the sPeCiaL mEmoRieS we made together. And as you know, sharing the move of our house last summer required a major gulp of humility, but I would have missed out on the sense of FREEDOM I felt by sharing my real life…just how it is…and knowing that you accept me…just the way I am.
Wearing your heart on your sleeve, doing things out of your comfort zone (looking for a new job, trying a new hobby, meeting new people), and standing up for what you believe in are all very hard things to do. Many times they don’t even seem worth all the effort they require. But let me assure you, they are. Your life is richer, more meaningful, and above all, impacting more people, all because you are willing to face your fears, deal with hurt, and conquer challenges by moving on despite the outcome.
So what will 2013 look like for you? This year I am welcoming more embarrassing moments, uncomfortable conversations and feelings of defeat as I work toward new goals. You are going to have to deal with these weird feelings/emotions regardless (because we are human!) so why not do them while enriching your life?! I don’t want to MiSs OuT on the best life I can have….do you?
Good gravy! The last couple weeks have been bRuTaL as far as putting my foot in my mouth. They were all pretty minor comments, but as I reflected on them later I couldn’t help but do this…
Do you ever have days like that? The other person may not have thought anything of it, but you still WiSh you could take back the awkward, hurtful or unnecessary words that were spoken.
The truth of the matter is, if you are HuMaN and if you are going to be social, you are going to say things that you regret. I guess you could avoid these situations by isolating yourself, never meeting new people or no longer interact with your peers, but that wouldn’t be LiViNg-It now would it?
Next time you catch yourself banging your head against your desk, remember that even though you made a human mistake, it is still better to reach out to others versus doing nothing at all.
*If you are really sick about something you said, you can always clear the air by making it right (click on the bolded words to read that post).
“Hello, My Name is Robynn and I’m a GeEk.” (Is there a support group for this sort of thing?)
I remember telling my students that I was a geek and they would immediately come to my defense saying, “Oh, no! You are not a geek, Ms. Hofer!” But I ReAllY aM. (Thanks students for the vote of confidence.)
I find myself in these AwKwArD situations and many times I had nothing to do with getting into them in the first place. But there I am. Smack dab in the middle of it, between a RoCk and a HaRd PlAcE. For example, I’m in a social setting where someone begins talking unkindly about another person who is not in our presence. I would say something but 1.) I’m picking my mouth off the floor in disbelief that such a comment was even said in the first place & 2.) What should I say?
In these situations, it makes me feel like a geek – awkward, uncomfortable, and at a loss of what to say or do. I want to run and hide. Why? Because I have an ImAgE to uphold. After all, I am well put together, refined, and always know what to do. (Yah, right!)
If I’m honest I will admit I don’t always know what to do. The beauty of acknowledging this is that then I qualify for help from above. So here I am: RaW, transparent, and yes, even a geek. But that’s ok. I will take all the help I can get.
How often have you thought of something NiCe about someone but didn’t tell them? Maybe you ran into an old friend and you thought how GrEaT they looked, but failed to mention it…or perhaps someone said something nice about your spouse but you didn’t take the time to pass the CoMpLiMenT on to your loved one.
Many times we don’t stop to share a GOOD WORD because there wasn’t that right “break” in the conversation to bring it up, or maybe we fear the situation could get awkward.
The thing you have to remember is how GREAT you feel when someone says something nice about YOU! Doesn’t that just make your day? If a customer emails me saying how much they LOVE their blocks or a person mentions my new outfit, I have a JuMp in my step the rest of the day! How would you like to have that same effect on someone else? If you feel it, say it! Don’t let another opportunity pass you by!