It’s been ages since I posted and this year has been filled with twists, turns and unexpected trials and triumphs. With my son moving up to 1st grade and my daughter going into her last year of nursery school, I found myself at a crossroad with no idea of the next direction I would go. Being a stay at home mom for seven years was a gift that I am lucky to have had. I started my role as “Mommy,” “Mama,” and “MOM” after teaching 1st grade for eight years and loved my new identity. Time has flown by and I’ve come to the realization that I’ve been home almost as long as I was in the classroom and can’t imagine jumping back into a teaching career when I’ve been out of practice for so long. So…where does that leave me? I’m no longer a first grade teacher, an identity I cherished and was proud of, but I’m also not a mommy of babies and toddlers anymore which is what I came to love even more than my previous role. I felt like I was slowly becoming NOBODY.
Bigger kids means bigger financial needs and the strain of a single income was becoming apparent. The obvious solution would be going back to teaching. However, there are no words to describe the anxiety I felt when even thinking about returning to teaching. Being out of the classroom for so long makes it that much harder to imagine going back. If I had taken a maternity leave and gone back right away my kids wouldn’t know any different and neither would I. Problem is I know how much I love bringing them to school and picking them up. I love “Mommy and Abby days” when she doesn’t have school. I couldn’t imagine giving it up.
Conflicted with finding an answer that would be best for our family I had one of those MEANT TO BE experiences that has changed the path from uncertainty to determination. I have always believed that certain people come into our lives for a reason. There is no doubt in my mind that Tracy was one of those people. My husband went to high school with Tracy and we have been facebook friends for a while. She lives in Georgia and was a marine biologist, but is now a division leader with lia sophia. For those of you who are not familiar with lia sophia it is a direct sales company that offers gorgeous jewelry at affordable prices (Think Tupperware party, but with jewelry)! One day Tracy sent me a message asking me if I would be willing to host a facebook virtual jewelry party so she could show her team that it is possible to connect with friends from out of state and build your business through technology. I thought about it and mentioned it to my husband and he said to me, “Maybe you should talk to Tracy about selling lia sophia, she was a marine biologist and is now really successful doing this and is home with her kids.” That was it…I talked to Tracy once and signed up! That was two months ago and boy has my world CHANGED for the BETTER! Through friends and family who volunteered to host parties I have been able to get my business started and already recruited a customer to join my “team”! I am on my way to promoting to Unit Leader and am still in awe that this practically fell into my lap. Tracy has guided me EVERY step of the way and has been my biggest cheerleader. It is AMAZING to work for a company that encourages women to be their own boss, set goals and attain them, and live their dream. My dream has always been to be home with my kids. My fondest memories are of my mom being home with me and my sister. I completely understand that this is not an option for many and that there are many women who even if staying home was an option would choose to continue with their career. The choice we each make does not DEFINE the type of mother you are. It does not make one of us better than the other. It is simply the path that each mother takes on the road to raising their children to be the best they can be!
In the past two months I have gained a new level of confidence and am proud of the work I have done to build my business. Dressing up my “Mommy” clothes with all of my new jewelry has added an element of fun to my days. I LOVE being my own boss, making my own hours, and helping our family out with finances. People do come into our lives for a reason…Tracy came into mine to be the light on this exciting new journey that I am on.
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~Robyn (Jersey Girl)
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I try to do a handprint/footprint project with my kids for each HoLiDaY or SeAsOn. I started them shortly after my son turned one and have continued since. It is FuN to look back and see how their hands and feet have grown and the projects make great decorations and gifts. You can find tons of great ideas just by doing a simple Google search for holiday handprint projects. Have fun CrEaTiNg great memories!
I made this wreath last Christmas using my son’s handprints for the wreath and my daughter’s tiny feet for the holly! I wrote the little poem myself!
I made these little snowmen out of their feet last January!
As I look forward to CeLeBrAtiNg my 9th wedding anniversary next week I ThAnK GoD for every step and misstep that led me to the life that I live ToDaY. My husband and I met on a Friday the 13th 10 years ago. It was a CoMpLeTe ChAnCe MeEtiNg and I truly believe that we were DeStiNeD to be together. Over the years I’ve thought about how lucky we are and I try my best not to take a second of it for granted. We have TwO BeAuTifuL ChiLdrEn, a house that we love, wonderful memories, and hope for an ExCitiNg FuTurE.
While driving the other day I heard the Darius Rucker song titled, This. The lyrics talk about all of the events that happen in life that lead you to where you are right now. “Thank God for all I’ve missed ‘cause it led me here to this,” is a lesson that I think so many people can learn from. Too many times we get stuck in the mentality that when things don’t work out the way we plan we have failed. Maybe they aren’t failures, but just StEpPiNg StOnEs to the life that we were meant to live.
I was SeArChiNg the internet and local stores for something to display my ChRiStMaS cArDs. I have a little basket for most of the cards, but I wanted something that I could use to display the picture cards that FriEnDs and FaMiLy send of their kids. Everything I came across was either too small or too expensive. Not willing to spend $75.00 on the one I really wanted, I decided to MaKe My OwN.
I bought a plain wood frame at my local craft store for $8.00.
I painted the frame green to symbolize Christmas and because it matches the décor in my living room.
I sanded areas of the paint off and stained it to create an “older” look.
I used a staple gun to fasten ribbon to the frame.
Bring on the holidays!
Great to display sight words for your kids!
How many times have you found yourself ScrAmbLinG around the night before a holiday or party trying to clean up your house for your guests? It was HaRd EnOuGh to keep the house straightened out when it was just two of us, but throw in two kids and now it seems just plain impossible. A while ago I found a saying that I LOVED and just had to have for my home…Please excuse the noise & mess…the kids are MaKiNg HaPpY MeMoRiEs.
BINGO! These were my thoughts exactly, but I just couldn’t find a way to put them into words. I don’t want my kids to grow up remembering a mom that picks things up the second they are out of place. I want them to look back on their ChiLdHoOd and think of all of the fun games and activities we did together in our home. I can vividly remember 30 years back, my sister and I playing with our Barbie bathtubs on a tablecloth on our kitchen floor. My mom wasn’t worried about water, bubbles, and a mess. She was CrEaTiNg An EnViRoNmEnT that allowed us to enjoy what we had and JuSt Be KiDs.
It isn’t always easy to let things go, but I am making an effort to pLaY mOrE and WoRrY LeSs. So what if someone stops over for a visit and my house is perfect? My kids are perfectly happy and in the end…that is all I can ask for.
This is a ReCipE I got from a great friend and have used it for fall CeLebrAtioNs ever since. It is my favorite on Halloween night and at Thanksgiving dinner…ENJOY!
- 1 gallon AppLe cider
- pinch of all spice
- 3 whole CloVes
- orange cut into slices
Add all ingredients to CrOcK PoT. Simmer on low for 2 hours. Remove cloves before serving.
We all know the saying, “KiDs say the CuTeSt things.” I’m sure you have favorite stories of words of wisdom that came from your own children, grandchildren, and nieces & nephews. We swap these little stories with family, friends, and co-workers but do we ever take the time to jot down these little glimpses of ChiLdhOoD?
When my son was 2 and really started talking I bought a JoUrNaL where I could record the date, his age, and whatever it was that he said that made me SmiLe. :) My FaVoRiTe to date was April 27, 2010 when Nicholas was 2 ½ years old. He had just thrown a spoon FuLL oF ChoCoLatE pUdDiNg across my kitchen.
Me– “Nicholas, Mommy is very upset with you.”
NiChOlAs– “No, I uSeT a you!”
There are lots of cute journals available to record these moments. Even if you use a simple spiral notebook or loose-leaf paper…GeT sTaRtEd! Childhood comes once in a lifetime and they won’t be calling m&m’s, “WeMeN-a-WeMs” when they’re going off to college!