What do you LoVe to do so much that you could do for the ReSt of your LiFe and you would do it for FrEe? Chances are your PuRpOsE in life is hiding behind that question.
When searching for your purpose look for the things that you are pAsSioNate about. What do you love to do?
That’s not to say you should only do things that you love, especially if you are trying to figure out what your purpose is. There are numerous stories of successful people who didn’t realize initially what their passion was. Instead, they just took advantage of an opportunity and Voi-La! The passion surfaced.
You’ve probably heard the saying that it’s easier to to “StEeR a mOviNg car vs. a PaRkEd one”. Maybe it is time to get moving and volunteer, take a class, pick up a new hobby, change careers or take advantage of an OpPorTuNity that has been presented to you.
If you’re looking for your passion get the car mOviNg and EnJoY the ride!
I went through a time in my life where I was fRusTrAteD in almost every aspect of my life. Things just didn’t seem to be going well for me. I felt mediocre, or worse, like a failure. That is when I remembered a couple of compliments I had been given years earlier by two separate individuals. They both said the same thing, “Robynn is the NiCeSt person I know.” I remember being floored that two people who didn’t even know each other and didn’t live in the same city said the same exact thing.
My point in sharing that story is not to say I’m the nicest person around because it turns out that I know fRiEndLier aNd NicEr people than I am and I try to emulate these people. Instead my purpose in sharing this story is to show how these people had seen my gifting, my tAleNt which is being fRieNdLy and enCouRagiNg to others. That is my StrEngTh.
When I thought back to these comments the LigHtBuLb went off!! I wasn’t operating in my GIFT, instead I was trying to be someone else. I was trying to emulate people who have strengths in the areas of my weaknesses and when I did I failed.
What gifts and talents do others see in you? Maybe it’s not even something that you have ever considered being a gift or a talent. Maybe you have blown off CoMpliMenTs thinking that people are “just saying that”, “don’t really mean it”, or “are just trying to be nice” . It may be time to take their compliments to heart. Could it be that they are pointing you to your “SwEeT sPoT” without you even knowing it?
Do you have one? A StRoNg-WiLLeD ChiLd, that is. I actually have two, but my youngest is the one with the strongest will. You better believe that she can throw a full-fledged fit and scream at the top of her lungs for hours on end. Literally. I wonder how I ended up with not one, but two of these precious little darlings. After all, I was the compliant child and what you sow you reap, right?
My response to this mayhem? I refuse to be manhandled by a 3-year old. So, BriNg iT DaRLiN’ because If wE tAnGo I promise you, I will always win. I do tell her that frequently. We even rehearse this dialog often:
MOM: “Who is in charge?”
CHILD: “You are.”
MOM: “So, that means that who is NOT in charge?”
CHILD: “We (her and her sister) are not in charge.”
Besides my children, there is another strong-willed child I have to deal with almost every day – a.k.a. ME!! It’s that undisciplined part of me that only wants convenience and comfort. It willingly cooperates, but only if it doesn’t involve sacrifice and hardship of any kind.
This strong-willed child is my public enemy number one. It is 99% of my problems. It’s what stands between me and my goals. It refuses to cooperate with my plans, wants its own way, and will throw a fit if it doesn’t get it.
How do I handle this strong-willed child? The same way I handle my strong-willed 3-year old. Sheer determination to be the LaSt oNe StAnDiNg. Feelings, comfort, and convenience will have to take backseat, because I will win this one. I promise.
I think I need to back up. We are on Week 13 of “The Challenge” where we are encouraging you to go for your dreams. But I know people my age and older who say, “Hey, hold on. I don’t know what my DrEaM is or where to even begin looking for my PurPoSe.”
If that describes you or even if you want to fine tune your dream consider this:
Your purpose is where your PaSsioN (heart’s desire) and your TaLenTs meet. In what area do you have high marks in both the passion category and the talent category? Maybe you don’t know the answer to this question. It may be that you have not yet discovered your talent, or your passion for that matter. However, when you do find them you have hit Bull’S-eYe. This is your “SwEeT sPoT”. For the next few weeks Suede Sofa is going to focus on finding your “sweet spot” a.k.a. your purpose.
Until next time ponder this question: Do you know your “sweet spot”?
Like it or not, the people you are hanging out with play a big role in regards to wHeRe and WhO you will be in 5 years. Are the people in your life raising you up to help you fulfill your potential or dragging you down? Are they inspiring, positive and motivating or are they negative and critical? Do they seem to suck the life out of everything or are they LiFe-GiVinG?
My husband recently shared this quote with me:
“SmaLL pEopLe talk about other PeOpLe, AvEragE peOpLe talk about ThiNgS, GrEaT pEoPle talk about IdEaS.”
That’s one thing I really appreciate about Lara. She’s an IdeA PerSon. As a result, I get inspired. Everytime I talk to her I feel like I am leaving “smokin’ hot” with new ideas!
Who are the people in your life who make you a better person? Is it time for some new relationships? Time for a new CiRcLe oF FrIeNdS? Because you’re gonna blink and your 5 years will be up.
I’ve heard it said before that there are TwO ThInGs that determine the person you will be in five years: 1.) the books you read and 2.) the people with whom you associate. Week 11 of “The Challenge” focuses on the first element in this equation:
ThE BoOkS YoU ReAd.
I like to modify this factor to include all the input you receive whether that be by television, radio, internet, magazines, or other media sources. This all can be summed up in one word: “INTAKE”. What does your intake look like? Are you spending your time filling your mind with pointless and useless information or are you filling it with information that is moving you closer to your dream? Would you say that the majority of your intake is InSpiriNg OR JuSt eNterTaiNing? MotiVating OR meAniNgLeSs?
My latest read in the “pursuit of a dream” category is, “Put Your Dream To The Test” by John Maxwell. If you’re looking for a good book on how to make a dream come true I would give it TwO ThUmBs Up!
It is definitely inspiring, as well as motivating and it will move you toward your dream!!
Whatever your dream, FiNd SoMeOnE who has already accomplished what you are desiring and learn everything you can from them. Have such a unique idea that you aren’t sure it has ever been done before? Then find someone who has had a unique idea of their own and then had to figure out how to bring it to pass.
The point is to find people who can InSpIrE and MoTiVaTe you. This can come from many sources – a magazine article or picture, a song, a book, a feature story or a documentary to name just a few. I remember my senior year of high school when the movie “HOOSIERS” came out during our girls basketball season. Some of my teammates and I went to see it. How motivating! Although that was years ago, I still get inspired when I see that movie which is probably one of my all time favorites.
Who inspires you? What is it that motivates you? What fuels your passion? Opportunities and resources await. Are you ready?
GeT InspiRed. Get MotiVated. Get drEaMing!