I don’t know about you, but when I get upset I want to get it off my chest as soon as I can. Let me tell ya, there are diSadvAntaGes to that. I have found that if I speak my mind as the disagreement arises, I usually regret what was said.
The other day I was aggravated. A first, I let my mind spiral out of control on all the things that bothered me about the situation. Instead of verbalizing them as they came to mind, like I normally do, I took time to think long and hard about what I was going to say before pleading my case. By thinking things through I was able to sift out unnecessary comments that would have been said only due to anger. This was HuGe because back in the day it would have caused our arguments to fester twice as long! By taking the time to fully evaluate the real reason I was upset, I had already calmed down which naturally heLpeD me discuss the situation in a more reasonable manner.
It is easy to want quick results and responses in all that we do. The longer I live, the more I see the benefits in not getting in a HURRY. As painful as it was to keep my mouth shut until I calmed down to carefully choose my words, it allowed me to resolve a problem with a person that wasn’t hurtful to them and regretful to me.
Taking the time to be more selective in what comes out of your mouth. If your thoughts are going a hundred miles an hour, that is not the time to be verbalizing them. Believe me; I know it is dreadful to wait. Your mind is good at convincing you that those racing thoughts ARE truly how you feel. Don’t be fooled. Past arguments are evidence that your mind keeps tricking you, so do everyone a favor and wait this one out.