Monthly Archives: June 2012
Taken from Successful Farmer magazine:
“The very human desire to run away from confrontation is so natural and common that we have to wonder how so many farm partnerships [or relationships in general] manage to survive and succeed in spite of it.
When trying to gather the courage to face a tough issue, it’s worth remembering that cowards die a thousand deaths, while heroes die but once. We know from experience that avoiding a battle doesn’t end a war – it just makes it that much tougher to fight, let alone win.
Fear can paralyze. It can keep a soldier from fighting for survival. It also can prevent people who love each other from coNfRoNting dangerous issues and solving them while that’s still possible. Armies learned centuries ago that even though fear can’t be eliminated, training and experience can instill habits that sidestep paralysis and enable action.
It can be the same in families. The straightforward commitment to face and rEsoLve day-to-day disagreements and misunderstanding, particularly the smaller, easier ones, develops the habit of reacting appropriately to issues as they arise.
It’s not so complicated. Sweat the small stuff first, day after day. It won’t make the big stuff any smaller, but it will make it that much easier to muster the courage for the scary face-to-face discussions that are so critical.”
I can relate to this article, can’t you? If I have a conflict with a friend, family member or coworker, it is much easier if I can work through the problem as soon as it comes up. It is never easy, but it is worth it. Suppressing issues that arise only turn small problems into big ones. Do yourself a favor and Be a HeRo by resolving disagreements as they come.
Sometimes I think if I tell my kids to “SaY ChEeSe” one more time they might just throw something at me! This weekend my daughter and niece had their very first dance recital. It was a big day for all of us and I am not sure who was more excited, the girls or me and my sister! The audience was packed with friends and family who came to watch our little ones dance to Bibbidi Bobbidi Boo and of course we were armed with our cameras to document each adorable step they took.
After the recital we gathered outside to take some group pictures with our family and friends and after a while the kids were just SpEnT. We realized we didn’t get a picture of the girls with my son who had been such a trooper all week as we dragged him to dance pictures, dress rehearsal, and now the recital. Since their cooperation was at an all time low we decided to let the kids do a SiLlY pose and told them to make a funny face. The girls immediately stuck their tongues out and I shot this incredible picture! It is something my family will cherish for years to come. Not to mention…any of you who follow my posts know that Nicholas can use a little teasing from Abby and his cousin now and then for all of his antics!
When trying to capture the PeRfEcT MoMeNt this summer, remember planned photos aren’t always the most memorable! Have fun and let your kids be silly too!
~Robyn (Jersey Girl)
My husband and I have had a lot of changes in our life recently. Without thinking about it I have felt the need to want to RuSh through the unpleasant times and fAst foRwaRd to the days that I dream about everything being perfect (clean house, perfectly behaved kids, more free time, etc). How many posts have I written about life not being perfect??? You would think I’d have it down by now :)
Is there something going on in your life that is making you want to hurry through?
If you step back and evaluate, what are the good parts of the unpleasant moments that you are missing out on simply because you are in a rush to fast forward through this time?
These questions iMpaCt me every time I read them because I am a person that tends to rush through everything. I want to get to a place where my kids don’t destroy everything in my house. I want to speed through dropping those “last few pounds” so I can finally fit into that dress I bought. I want to erase an awkward moment with a friend and skip ahead to a time that I didn’t feel so uncomfortable.
But you know what I have to give up to finally reach that perfect TiMe? Hearing my kids say adorable words and run to me for constant hugs and kisses….enjoying eating a surprise meal that my husband made for me and saying “YES” to unplanned trips to Dairy Queen with the kids…and special moments with a dear friend that I would never experience because I skipped ahead.
If you are stressed, miserable, sad, whatever it is….PAUSE for a minute. What good things are you missing out on because you are rushing through this difficult time? It is only natural to start feeling guilty at this point but STOP, don’t do that! START now and focus on the special moments TODAY that you will never get back. Even though there are some things you don’t enjoy right now, force yourself to focus on the good. Not only will it help alleviate discomfort but you will cherish special moments that you would have otherwise missed.