I remember when Doug and I were dating and we had to carry a heavy piece of furniture out to his truck. After we got done I told him “goOd WoRk” and he replied with “kNow YoUr RoLe”! It made me stop and think for a second…we all play a special role in every task and relationship that we experience.
As the years passed I realized that our roles cHaNgE depending on the situation. For example, when he takes the initiative to call and schedule something for our family, it is my role to be quiet and not ask twenty questions to insure that he did it correctly. His role is to take care of the matter and it is my role to trust him. (And I know if I perform my role correctly, I will avoid potential arguments!)
Another example is in friendships. Every relationship is diFFeRent which means your role changes depending on the person you are communicating with. I LOVE to talk, BUT my role with some people is to be the sounding board. I am happy to play a different role because I know it is needed to keep that friendship strong.
Maybe you’ve never given your “role” much thought. Just remember that even though you have sTroNg qualities, sometimes you aren’t suppose to use them in every role you play. Next time ask yourself, “What is needed the most here? A cheerleader, follower, educator, volunteer, cleaner, etc.?” and take pRiDe in playing the role that is NEEDED most!