Put Your Blinders On

Do you make decisions based on the people around you?  DeeP dOwN did you decide to buy a new car because all your friends and family recently upgraded theirs?  Did you put your kid in t-ball because you felt the pressure from the other parents?  Have you recently felt the need to go on an extreme diet because you bumped into an old classmate that lost a bunch of weight?

Whether it is what you buy, the vocation you choose, how you raise your kids, or the way you live your life, we must ask ourselves this question:

If I couldn’t see others and what they are doing, would I still be making the same decisions? 


So many times we forget to think on our own because we are heavily influenced by other people.  Doug and I talk about this a lot.  In our decison making we have to constantly remind ourselves that, if we didn’t care what others thought, would we still go down the same path?

Taking buying a home for example.  Would you have purchased your home if you didn’t know what type of home everyone else lived in? Without thinking about it, you went house hunting feeling obligated to want certain things because you knew what other people have.  Even though they weren’t there, the influence talked you into buying an expensive home, and you are left with the stress of keeping up with the payments.   (If you are in a financial struggle, read our finance posts for help)

When you are at a crossroad to make a decision, ask yourself WHO you are doing it for. Like a race horse with blinders on, tune out what’s going on around you and focus on what YOU want.  It isn’t always easy, but living YOUR life will be the ulimate pRiZe when reaching the finish line. 


Tired of keeping up with the Jonses?  Read my post called Goodbye Jonses! Hello Freedom!


Filed under Finances, Getting Real, Inspiration, Inspire, Life

6 responses to “Put Your Blinders On

  1. kira

    It is easy to feel societal pressure regarding our choices in life. However, I think we we need to focus on what the Lord wants for our life, and less on what WE want. Because, if I am honest with myself, I probably do want to be like everyone else. I want to have marble counter-tops because I care about what other people think about me. I want to put my kid in dance classes because I want others to think I am a good mom. You know? Those things are selfish things. However, when I step back and think about what the Lord wants for me…that’s when my perspective really changes!

  2. Preach it sister! I totally agree! If it wasn’t for my faith I don’t think I could say “no” to society as much as I do and stay on the path that God wants for me. I could easily write another post as a continuation of this one about “living for YOU” really means “living the life God wants”. Hopefully people read the comments so they can take this idea one step further and deeper! Thanks for commenting!

    May Peace be with you!

  3. Gigi

    Good question! Lara, you are really making your readers THINK.

  4. Beth

    Very good blog Lara. Thanks for the reminder!

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