As a mom I feel that almost every decision I make has some influence whether it be great or small on my children. If I send my son to school without a coat, “Will he be cold at recess?” If I let my daughter skip a nap to go to a playdate, “Will she be cranky all evening?” If I keep my son from watching cartoons that his friends are watching, “Will the other kids tease him?” So many decisions and so much to WoRrY about as parents.
My son has recently started a fascination with dinosaurs. He has been learning about them in school and can’t get enough of them. A friend let us borrow a National Geographic DVD about dinosaurs that Nicholas loved. It was really realistic looking and it had all of his favorite dinosaurs. Only problem was…it was a little TOO realistic. Nicholas had a few nightmares and we sent that DVD back. We found an old G rated animated dinosaur movie named, The Land Before Time to give to Nicholas for Easter. It looked adorable and I was thrilled that even though it was created in 1988 it was available on DVD. Without a second thought I put in the movie and started breakfast only to hear my husband calling me into our family room a few minutes later. Nicholas was curled up on the chair with tears in his eyes and wouldn’t talk. We shut off the movie and I sat down with him to find out what happened. He told me that in the movie the T-Rex hurts the mommy and he gave me the tightest hug his arms could give. Later that morning I found the scene he was referring to. Not only does the T-Rex hurt the mommy, but she dies right in front of her baby. I went right to the DVD packaging and read the description that mentioned NoThInG about the outcome of the scene that was so horrifying to a four-year old to watch.
A sickening feeling came over me that I couldn’t shake for most of the morning. Why didn’t I preview the movie before I let Nicholas watch it? Nicholas has been attached to my hip since the second he was born. He is a MoMmY’s BoY who still ends up waking up next to me more morning than not. Watching that baby dinosaurs mommy die must have been horrifying for him. How long is it going to take for him to forget how upsetting this scene was to him?
If anything good has come out of this, it’s that I have learned there are NO true G Rated shows, movies, apps, etc. in life. Kids have so many different personalities and QuIrKs…what sets off one may be the opposite of what sets off another. There are too many times when we let a false sense of security take over for our better judgement. Please learn from my mistake and take the time to really SEE for yourself!
~Robyn (Jersey Girl)