I Was Hiding and I Didn’t Know It

A couple of weeks ago my husband had made the oBserVation on how I don’t put things away when I am done using them.  I responded the way I always do, “It’s because the kids probably distracted me when I was getting ready to clean up”.

That conversation tugged on me for a week.  Was there tRuTh behind my husband’s observation of my untidiness?  I decided I would test myself and see.  After making a point to break this habit for a week, the answer is YES.  I have been hIdiNg behind the excuse of the kids, and I never knew it.  Not only did I realize that Doug was right (see my “Tastes like vinegar” post), but it has actually made my life easier.  I don’t have as much to pick up at night and I feel more organized during the day.  Now, don’t get me wrong—my house is not spotless because I don’t spend all day picking up after the kids.  BUT, if I get it out, I put it away when I am finished!

It was hard to admit that Doug was right, but I did what all wives should do (no matter how bad it tastes!) and thanked him. Sometimes people tell us things that hurt, but after we have time to cool off, we should try to see if there is some truth to what they are saying.  It was worth the pain knowing that Doug loves me enough to hold me aCcouNtabLe so I can be a better ME.  If I’m not willing to allow my spouse to hold me accountable then who will?  The truth hurts, but let’s be honest, being stubborn gets you nowhere.


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What will be the hardest item to achieve on your Live-It list?

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8 responses to “I Was Hiding and I Didn’t Know It

  1. You’re right, the truth does hurt and it also hurts our pride having to humble ourselves and say, “I’m sorry. I was wrong.” But I once heard the question posed, “Do you want to be right or do you want to have peace?” And at the end of the day it is so much better having peace than “thinking” you are right. :)

  2. Gigi

    The toughest goal on my live it list is to be at a healthy weight by losing 14 pounds by Christmas 2012. Today I need to lose 16 pounds since I gained 2 pounds since Jan 1…..but today is a NEW DAY. (Referring to the post above, my excuse for my recent weight gain was that I could not throw out all of the homemade cookies and candies that people gave us for Christmas.) NO EXCUSES for BINGING!!!

  3. You have brought up a touchy subject in this house too! I constantly find myself saying I didn’t get to something because the kids needed me. I am going to try and pick up after myself this week and hopefully it will make my nights easier too!

  4. Lara

    Building a piece of furniture from scratch will be one of the hardest things to achieve on my list!

  5. Jenny

    The hardest item on my list-it list is having monthly “Date Night” and not ending it with a trip to Wal-Mart. I am always making my trips worth it but nobody likes ending a romantic night fighting the crowds at Wal-Mart. As we start our new routine in going on “Date Night” we are already having a hard time finding a date in January. No wonder we never got this done in 2011!! I am also seeing my grocery list get longer and longer and with Wal-Mart being an hour away it will be hard to drive by and not stop. I remind myself though; this is why I called it “Date Night” and not “Shopping Day”.

  6. I think that living life in the moment, everyday, will be my biggest challenge. GiGi, I’m also with you on the 16 pounds! We can do it together and hopefully by Christmas 2012 we’ll both have met our goal!!

  7. Beth

    Participate in a 10K walk will be one of the hardest things to achieve on my live it list. It is just a matter of find one to participate in Kansas or nearby state.

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