We’ve been on a few trips in our life and we would have to say, this is the one we enjoy the least. In fact, we don’t think we could use the word “enjoy” at all, because quite frankly guilt trips are down right TorMenTiNg.
In the last week we have been talking about this IsSuE not just with each other, but with other moms.
The discussion goes something like this, we feel GuiLtY because it seems that we are “riding” our kids non-stop, constantly having to correct them, instruct them, discipline them, etc. When we look at our husbands who seem to just get to enjoy the kids, then comes the guilt. “My husband gets to have all the fun. I do all the correcting. I’m not a good mom because I should be playing with my kids. I feel like I am always nagging my kids.”
The truth is, as mom’s we all have DiFfeReNt GiFtS. For some moms, playing with their kids may be what naturally flows out of them, for others, maybe it’s nurtuing. Maybe you love cooking with your kids or reading to them. Both of us are very loving with our kids. We love to cuddle with them. It’s what comes natural to us and as a result, it’s what we do the best at. When they are sad, its mom they come running to. However, instead of FoCuSinG on our strength as mother’s we focus on the area where we are lacking. The result: Guilt. We know better, but we do it anyway. Ugh!!
When we think back to our childhood neither of us remember our mom’s playing with us. Ever. However, we both have very FoNd MeMoRiEs of our moms. They were a very safe place to land – LoViNg and wArm, SeCuRe and sAfE.
So if you’re feeling guilt, ask yourself if it is self-imposed. Sure, there are times we know we should do better, but guilt goes so beyond this.
If you’re struggling with guilt, take a good look at why. Is there a change you need to make? If so, make the change, but then give yourself a break and enjoy your kids by focusing on the things that come NaTuRaL to you.
~Robynn and Lara~
Check out a similar post by Lara called “Mommy Guilt” by clicking here.