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Make a Pact

Every once in a while Doug and I will catch ourselves wAsTiNg a lot of time rehashing an upsetting incident, discussing something negative, or spending way too much time on something that we shouldn’t.  Do you ever do that? Recently, we have done something helpful to avoid these ongoing situations.  We “make a pact” with one another to no longer waste another minute on that specific topic.  When we catch ourselves in a conversation that makes us feel sour, one of us may say, “Okay…for the rest of the month we need to work on not bringing up_______.”  From then on we hold each other accountable by giving “the look” or a quick reminder when conversations head the wrong direction.pinky-swear1

Is there something that you are doing, saying or thinking about that you need to nip in the bud?  By regurgitating the same negative conversations you are adding unnecessary depression to your day AND to those around you.  Doug and I always have to remember…the kids are aLwAys watching and listening!!  Whatever we talk a lot about, they will believe!

What conversations can you remove from your life by mAkiNg a pAcT to stop?  Don’t forget, with the help of someone else, you can achieve this goal much easier and catch old habits before they creep back in your life!

Lara

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It Isn’t Always Easy

Have you ever been really pAtient and pOsitiVe about a situation and it still didn’t pan out the way you had hoped?  In those moments it is easy to want to “throw in the towel” and let all upbeat thoughts dissipate.  Then you start to wonder, why waste so much eNerGy trying to be optimistic all the time?

Being a positive person isn’t always easy.  A negative attitude takes less effort and low expectations keep you from being easily disappointed.  Although this is the outlook of many, I’m a bElieveR that being positive is hArder, But bEtteR.  Although we have to constantly motivate ourselves to find the good out of a bad situation, I’d rather work hard at feeling good vs. work less and feel bad.

So next time things don’t go your way and you want to kick your positive attitude to the curb, remind yourself that good things happen for those who work HARD and WAiT OuT tHe StOrM.  Negative efforts give quick relief but the positive ones give eTerNal haPpineSs.

~Lara

(This picture was taken from our yard this past spring.  We have been blessed to have many breathtaking rainbows from our front porch!)

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