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Love Letters

I’ve been married for almost 7 years.  When I ReMemBer my dating days with Doug, I cherish all of the little notes and letters we gave one another.  Call me old fashioned, but there is just something special about seeing how the other person feels on paper.  Who doesn’t like a heartfelt love letter?!

Fast forward to the present and we are lucky if we can squeeze an “I love you” in a ConVersaTion without being interrupted by kids or hectic schedules.  We do well at thanking one another for little stuff throughout the week (taking out the trash, paying bills) but it is rare to have moments that we stop and verbally express the deeper love we have for one another.

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So….this week I decided to write a love letter.  Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t on fancy paper sprayed with perfume and sealed with a waxed stamp.  It wasn’t even hand written! It was a simple email that I typed up while I was waiting for my letter blocks to dry (romantic, huh?).  And to be hOnEst, it felt a little weird at first.  I mean, I’ve known Doug for what seems like forever, but to write things that have more meaning than your typical daily conversation brought back butterflies as if I was awaiting my first date with him.  So a good “weird” I guess!

Like many things that are slightly uncomfortable in life, you have little to no regret once it is over.  It felt G O O D to share how I felt and usually that is all it takes to help nurture a relationship.

By the end of the day I challenge you to send your loved one a thoughtful text, email or voicemail (or hand written letter if you feel froggy!).  They may be shocked to receive it because it is so out-of-the ordinary, but you never know what good things may come of it!

Yours Truly,

Lara  :)

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Rated G Does Not Mean ALL AGES

As a mom I feel that almost every decision I make has some influence whether it be great or small on my children.  If I send my son to school without a coat, “Will he be cold at recess?”  If I let my daughter skip a nap to go to a playdate, “Will she be cranky all evening?”  If I keep my son from watching cartoons that his friends are watching, “Will the other kids tease him?”  So many decisions and so much to WoRrY about as parents.

My son has recently started a fascination with dinosaurs.  He has been learning about them in school and can’t get enough of them.  A friend let us borrow a National Geographic DVD about dinosaurs that Nicholas loved.  It was really realistic looking and it had all of his favorite dinosaurs.  Only problem was…it was a little TOO realistic.  Nicholas had a few nightmares and we sent that DVD back.  We found an old G rated animated dinosaur movie named, The Land Before Time to give to Nicholas for Easter.  It looked adorable and I was thrilled that even though it was created in 1988 it was available on DVD.  Without a second thought I put in the movie and started breakfast only to hear my husband calling me into our family room a few minutes later.  Nicholas was curled up on the chair with tears in his eyes and wouldn’t talk.  We shut off the movie and I sat down with him to find out what happened.  He told me that in the movie the T-Rex hurts the mommy and he gave me the tightest hug his arms could give.  Later that morning I found the scene he was referring to.  Not only does the T-Rex hurt the mommy, but she dies right in front of her baby.  I went right to the DVD packaging and read the description that mentioned NoThInG about the outcome of the scene that was so horrifying to a four-year old to watch.

A sickening feeling came over me that I couldn’t shake for most of the morning.  Why didn’t I preview the movie before I let Nicholas watch it?  Nicholas has been attached to my hip since the second he was born.  He is a MoMmY’s BoY who still ends up waking up next to me more morning than not.  Watching that baby dinosaurs mommy die must have been horrifying for him.  How long is it going to take for him to forget how upsetting this scene was to him?

If anything good has come out of this, it’s that I have learned there are NO true G Rated shows, movies, apps, etc. in life.  Kids have so many different personalities and QuIrKs…what sets off one may be the opposite of what sets off another.  There are too many times when we let a false sense of security take over for our better judgement.  Please learn from my mistake and take the time to really SEE for yourself!

~Robyn (Jersey Girl)

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Mr. Apple and Mrs. Orange

Mrs. Orange and Mr. Apple L O V E each other.  They make a good couple for numerous reasons.  Mrs. Orange appreciates that fact that Mr. Apple puts up with her never-ending eMoTioNs, supports her in wanting to try new things and listens to her even when she’s talking in circles.  Mr. Apple loves Mrs. Orange because she laughs at all his jokes, has a PaTienT personality, is a great mother to their kids, and enjoys helping him work in the yard.  Even though they are very complementary together, they are also very different.

Mr. Apple is very predictable.  Like all apples, when you peel back the first layer, there’s nothing but the same fruit underneath. What you see is what you get, pretty much to the core.  It’s as simple as that.  Mrs. Orange loves that about Mr. Apple.

Mrs. Orange is very COMPLEX.  When you peel back the first layer of her exterior BeAUtY, there isn’t just more fruit underneath, but MANY different slices of fruit!  There’s the slice that feels she could be a better housekeeper, the slice that’s striving to be a better mother, a slice for improving her figure, and of course the slice that feels intimidated by other oranges.  There are just a lot of sections of “stuff” under her orange peel, and to be HonEsT, mostly stuff that Mr. Apple doesn’t understand!  Mrs. Orange knows that sometimes it is easier on both her and Mr. Apple if she just calls up her friends and works through some of her more troubling segments.  Mr. Apple isn’t bothered by this fact, and takes CoMfORT in knowing God intended it to be that way.

Even though Mr. Apple and Mrs. Orange think and feel completely different, they serve a UniQUe purpose in their well-balanced relationship.  They acknowledge their differences, and because of that, make a GreAt Pair when sharing their fruit basket!

Ü  ~L

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