Every once in a while Doug and I will catch ourselves wAsTiNg a lot of time rehashing an upsetting incident, discussing something negative, or spending way too much time on something that we shouldn’t. Do you ever do that? Recently, we have done something helpful to avoid these ongoing situations. We “make a pact” with one another to no longer waste another minute on that specific topic. When we catch ourselves in a conversation that makes us feel sour, one of us may say, “Okay…for the rest of the month we need to work on not bringing up_______.” From then on we hold each other accountable by giving “the look” or a quick reminder when conversations head the wrong direction.
Is there something that you are doing, saying or thinking about that you need to nip in the bud? By regurgitating the same negative conversations you are adding unnecessary depression to your day AND to those around you. Doug and I always have to remember…the kids are aLwAys watching and listening!! Whatever we talk a lot about, they will believe!
What conversations can you remove from your life by mAkiNg a pAcT to stop? Don’t forget, with the help of someone else, you can achieve this goal much easier and catch old habits before they creep back in your life!
I was having a conversation with a friend the other day about how society overuses certain phrases and responses. For example, when someone asks “How are you doing?” don’t you normally reply with “I’m good”? Whether or not you truly are GoOd, out of habit, your response is always the same.
Another habitual phrase is “We should get together sometime”. How often do you say that but never follow through? Do you really mEaN it or are you just saying it to be nice? Maybe you have good intentions but life gets in the way before remembering to schedule a specific date.
On the flipside, have you ever tried to follow-up with people who wanted to ‘get together sometime’ and it was almost like they fOrGot they ever suggested it?! That was a little awkward, wasn’t it? The situation may have even made you question your relationship with that person.
We have all made pRoMiSes that we can’t keep but how often do we consider how it makes the other person feel? Next time your routine conversation comes into play, stop and ask yourself if the words you speak are siNceRe. By doing so, following through with your commitments will comfort the other person that you value the relationship.
(*I am writing this post because I need this reminder, not because I am trying to hint around that you have broken a promise with me :) No worries! And if I haven’t been prompt on following up with you, please forgive me!)
(Up for an additional challenge? Take your relationship one step further and read my other post If You Feel It, Say It.)