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Are You Focused?

Have you stayed focused on the goals you set for yourself to accomplish before the summer months hit?  Are there areas you need to target as the weather warms up and the BBQ’s get grilling?  I think we all start out with great intentions to succeed, but somehow LiFe just gets in the way of achieving our goals.

For me the struggle continues to be diet and exercise.  I’m not going to lie…It’s been weeks since I wrote a post about starting The Lazy Girls Workout and this lazy girl has not worked out OnCe since that day.  That is unless you count a few games of freeze tag around the yard with my son, but other than that…NoThInG!

I think when life gets too hectic to find time for ourselves or when we are finding it hard to get moving (in my case literally GeT MoViNg!) it is important to find things to use a motivators.  For me it is going to be my new right out of the box Lands End bathing suit.  Don’t give up on your goals…we all have time to get back in the GaMe!

~Robyn (Jersey Girl)

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Lazy Girls Workout

After New Years I cracked down and put a lot of time into meal planning and started working toward my weight watchers goal weight.  As I’ve said before (to see my weight loss post click here) it isn’t like I had a lot of weight to lose, but the 10 to 15 pounds that creep up on me when I don’t watch make me feel miserable.  A few weeks ago I reached my goal weight and was really excited until I realized that although I had reached goal, I hadn’t done one single thing to tone my body while I was losing the weight.  I’m not sure if I thought the stretched tummy from carrying two pregnancies was MaGiCaLlY going to go away with the weight loss or what, but I can assure you…when the clothes come off…it’s still there!

Here’s the GiAnT problem…I HaTe working out.  Walking, running, jogging, weight training, stretching, aerobics (do they even do that anymore?), kickboxing, yoga, stair-climbing, etc….I don’t want to do it!  Strike that, I don’t even want to think about doing it!  I realize that I could continue with my anti-exercise attitude and look good in my clothes, but bathing suit season is coming up and I would LoVe to look good in something other than the tankini with a skirt that I have been wearing since I had my son five years ago.

In comes The Lazy Girls Workout.  While searching Pinterest last night I came across a simple workout for BeGiNnErS.  It was the first time I thought…Wow, I might actually be able to do this!  I’m not making any promises and I’m starting out slow (3 or 4 days a week), but at least it is something!  If you are like me and just can’t get motivated to get moving, find something you think you can do in moderation and set a small goal for yourself.  Together we can get in shape!

~Robyn (Jersey Girl)

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Peace With Food {Over Rating Self-Control}

Boy, I messed up this past weekend and lost “PeAcE WiTh FoOd”.  {Sigh}  Here’s the story, maybe you can relate.  I went to the grocery store to get some items for dinner.  My kids had been begging me to have hot-dogs.  So, hot-dogs and turkey burgers it was.  As I was getting the items I picked up some chips {they were baked, but still, they provide a temptation if I’m not careful}.  I knew as I was picking them up that this was not a good idea.  I was having one of those days.  You know what I’m talking about, right?   One of those days where you just want to turn your brain off and go on AuTo PiLoT?  I went home and as I was preparing the meal I opened up the chips to snack on.  {A recipe for disaster.  What was I doing?  I know better.}  Normally, when I want to munch on something during meal prep I like to have carrots or veggies, because even though I’m not crazy about raw veggies, if they are there I will eat them.  But this time, it was “forget the veggies, I’ll take the chips.”  Well, needless to say, things only went down hill from there.  But it was InEviTabLe as I disregarded a principle I have learned a long time ago:

“Use WiSdOm where wisdom is needed and self-control where self-control is needed.”

It is so easy to think that all we need is self-control, when in essence what we really need is wisdom.  Self-control is GrEaT, but many times we use it as our first line of defense, when really it should be the 2nd.  Had I used wisdom in the grocery store I would have decreased the likelihood that I even had to use self-control.  I wouldn’t have even put myself in a tempting situation.

This applies in all areas of life, not just eating and food.  Where do you struggle with self-control?  Exercise, spending, gambling, drinking, shopping, gossiping?  These are just a few of the things that people struggle with.  Have you taken the 1st step and AppLiEd wisdom?  If you are wanting to exercise early in the morning it is not wise to think that when the alarm goes off you will be ready to work out if you don’t have a plan in place and maybe even an accountability partner.  If shopping is your weakness, thinking you will be able to say “No”, once inside the store is setting yourself up for a fall.

Where are your temptations?  Take the first step and get yourself out of those situations ASAP.  Remove as many temptations as possible.  That’s wisdom.  And the amazing thing I have found is that many times once I have taken the 1st step of wisdom, self-control just kicks in automatically and I really don’t have to exert much effort.

Does this mean that self-control isn’t important?  Not at all, but it sure gives you the AdVanTaGe and puts the odds in your favor of winning the ViCtOrY.

:)

Robynn~

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STOP EATING!

Do you ever have days when you eat everything in the house and you still feel unsatisfied?  And then as you are frantically trying to find your hidden candy stash you scream inside, “WHAT ARE YOU DOING? STOP EATING!!  WHY ARE YOU STILL EATING?!”

Even though I normally stay within 5 pounds of my healthy weight (besides when I’m pregnant) I still have days when I fall off the deep end.  Thinking that it will make me FeeL better, I eat everything in sight, when in fact it only makes me feel worse and causes me to eat more.  I basically give up on myself and hOpE that tomorrow is a better day (when many times it isn’t because I feel horrible the next morning!)

I’ll be hoNesT; I don’t have a glorious ending to this post.  I’m just writing to say that no matter what size or weight you are, some days are just TOUGH.  Have you ever stuck to a diet for weeks or months and then, for whatever reason, you lose control and gain all the weight back?  Probably, yes.  The reAliTy is, even in the most perfect circumstances PeaCe wItH FoOd won’t always be as peaceful as it sounds.

Speaking of which, I don’t know about you but the holiday goodies are making this “eating stuff” even more difficult.  I’m trying to sample in moderation, but again…trying to be real with you…it is a struggle and some days I just give up.

Confession: Right before I sat down to write this post, I had inTenTions of ending my horrible eating day with a glass of milk and cookies.  I just happened to text my sis and she said she was at the gym.  Hearing from her is what it took to “snap out of it”.  Instead, I’ve opted to write you and sAvE myself the extra calories and disappointment I would have felt in 10 minutes.  Thank you sis and to you readers for detouring my thoughts so my day could end better than expected!

You are NEVER alone.

~Lara

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{Peace With Food – Numero Uno}

{Subcribers–sorry your link didn’t work again today.  We found the problem.  The email subcriber link will work tomorrow!}

There’s a verse in the Bible I love that says, “WiSdOm is SuPreMe; therefore get wisdom.  Though it cost all you have get understanding.”  Proverbs 4:7 (NIV)

I personally believe the first step to peace with food is getting wisdom.  Obviously if this area of “peace with food” (whether that is eating too much, not enough, or binging and purging) is something that is challenging for you, you don’t have all the InForMatiOn you need or else you’re just not “there” yet.  There are times when we know we need to make changes, but for whatever reason aren’t ready or just don’t want to badly enough.  Sometimes we enjoy our misery.  For a while, that is.  But chances are you do want it BadLy enough.  Chances are you have tried numerous times and failed and you’re frustrated, discouraged, disillusioned, and feel hopeless which is exactly why you need wisdom.  You need to know what to do with your unique set of circumstances.

Wisdom is what can guide you in your JouRnEy.  Wisdom comes from many sources.  I do my best to remember (because it is easy to forget) to go to the author of wisdom first for help, God Himself, but hey God uses lots of things including people and circumstances.  So make sure you ask Him WHO and/or WHAT He may want to use to help you.  Maybe it will be a SuPpOrT group.  Maybe your situation is more severe and you need help from a professional counselor.  Maybe it will be a book or InSpiRing movie, song, quote, or video.  Maybe it’s an organization such as Weight Watchers that can help guide you in making good eating choices.  Maybe it’s your physician or a website that can give you the information you need to start a SeNsibLe exercise program.  Or maybe it will be a good friend who can encourage you and hold you AcCouNtabLe.

The old adage goes, “Wisdom is PoWeR.”  So before you plunge in headfirst, take some time to get the wisdom you need to get a “Smart Start”.  It will save precious time and help you hit the ground running!

:)

Robynn~

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Put On Your Big Girl Panties And Deal With It

Growing up I was extremely lucky as far as my weight was concerned.  I was able to eat whatever I wanted and whenever I wanted and never gained a pound.  I didn’t worry about my clothes fitting and I didn’t think twice about wearing a bikini to the beach. By age 25 I got married, my metabolism had started changing, and the weight started creeping up.  Over two years of infertility led to more weight gain and I delivered my son weighing 67 pounds heavier than I was on my wedding day.

After Nicholas was born I decided to join Weight Watchers to help take the weight off.  Knowing that getting back to my pre-baby weight was NoT A ReAliTy, I set a goal that I thought I could maintain.  Losing the weight was the easy part…keeping it off was another story.  Over the next year and a half I watched the scale go up and down until I reached my goal weight for the second time only to find out a week later that I was pregnant with my daughter.  WoO-hOo, not only was I shocked and elated that I was pregnant without having to go through the grueling infertility struggle that I went through for my son, but now I  had a FrEePaSs to eat whatever I wanted again.

I didn’t gain as much weight with Abby’s pregnancy as I did with Nicholas’, but I don’t think having a toasted coconut donut and a large dunkachino every day from May to August was a smart move.  My weight fluctuated for the next year and a half until it got to a point where I couldn’t stand to look at myself in the mirror.  There were many people, friends and family included, who would say, “You are small you don’t need to lose weight.”  I was already upset and stressed about the way I looked and when I heard things like that it made me feel like what I was going through WaSn’T ReaL to anyone else.  I got to a point where I was eating and eating ridiculous amounts of snacks and sweets and I wasn’t fitting into any of my clothes.  I was my highest non-pregnancy weight and just couldn’t get control of it.  As NuTtY as it may sound, I decided that taking a picture of myself in the mirror wearing my bra and underwear was going to be my motivation.  I loathed and hated the picture.  The girl in the picture was so far from who I wanted to be and it was a huge WaKe-Up CaLL.  It is one thing to stuff yourself into clothes and cover up with a big shirt or sweater, but it is another to look at yourself over and over again with nothing sucking you in or hiding the skin.

I joined Weight Watchers again in January 2011, but this time I did all of my weigh-ins online and downloaded the Weight Watchers app on my phone.  I followed the plan, but allowed myself to ChEaT a little on weekends.  By June I had lost 20 pounds and was thrilled with my success.  I’ve struggled since June to keep the weight off, but am trying to make peace with myself and accept the ups and downs that come with weight loss.

With Thanksgiving tomorrow and Christmas right around the corner I know the next month is not going to be easy.  I know denying myself treats like sweet potato casserole and Christmas cookies will only make me depressed so I will allow myself to indulge in the things that I love, but at a reasonable helping.  If I notice the weight starting to CrEeP back up, I know I have my trusty camera and can stand in front of the mirror in my bra and underwear anytime!

~Jersey Girl~

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From the Confessional: Eating, Weight and Self-Image

Have you ever found that no matter what “wEiGht” you are, you find yourself either struggling with food, unsatisfied with some area of your body, or feel overwhelmed with pressure to stay skinny after you lost weight (especially if people noticed and made a big deal about it!)?

The more women I talk to, the more I realize that no matter what size you are, women struggle when it comes to PeAcE with FoOd, the number on the scale, and body image. Most women believe that if you look thin (or you’ve maintained your healthy BMI weight), that those women are automatically happy, never struggle with food temptation, and rarely step on the scale because looking like that comes easy. Let me tell you, this is not true.

Growing up I didn’t struggle with weight as much as I struggled with my self-image. I was a chubby kid in junior high and after hitting a growth spurt in high school, staying thin didn’t take much eFFoRt. Looking back though, I was never satisfied with my body…how sad when I look back at pictures of myself!

It wasn’t until I became pregnant with my first child that I was truly huMbLed when it came to weight. I gained over 60 lbs and looked so different that some people didn’t even recognize me. I remember coming home from the hospital thinking, “This is it. I will no longer be able to wear skinny jeans.” I believed it so much that I gave 5 trash bags full of clothes to goodwill within the first couple months of being a new mom! Fast forward 4 years and another kiddo…I wish I wouldn’t have given up on myself so easy! I was able to eventually lose the weight and could have enJoyEd some of those favorite outfits again.

Even though I am at my lowest weight since college, I still struggle with PeAcE wiTh FoOd. I LOVE sweets and have a hard time eating in moderation at times. When I let my guard down I eat too much and then feel horrible the next day.  Often times I “throw in the towel” and eat poorly for a week or so and then have to finally snap out of it. It becomes a vicious cycle of giving in, feeling bad, giving myself a pep-talk to start eating right and exercising, etc. So don’t be fooled! Even though I may look and feel bEttEr than I have in years, I have to talk to myself daily in order to maintain my current weight.

We are going to be talking a lot more about this topic on the Suede Sofa because we have had so many women share such similar thoughts regarding weight and food. You are probably telling yourself that no one feels the same way you do, but I can assure you most women have been where you are right now.

I look forward to sharing more of my story and thoughts with you. No life is as pErfeCt as it appears on the outside so give yourself a break and stop comparing yourself to every woman you pass on the street. If only you could visit with them for a second and realize that you both feel the SAME way, regardless if you look completely different! As you read more of our stories I think you will find great comfort in knowing that no matter where you are in your PeAce with FoOd journey, you are not alone.

If you agree or liked this post, do us a favor today and click “like” on the facebook link below or comment under this post.  Use a screen name if you don’t want your real name exposed.   Sharing our personal stories on this subject is not easy.  By responding to this post we will be reAssuRed that you want to hear more about our experiences on PeAce WitH Food.

Thanks for Reading!

~Lara

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