If you’ve been following the Suede Sofa, you are no doubt familiar with what we call the “LiVe-It LiSt” which is similar to a bucket list but with the focus on living every day to the full rather than on dying. With the “Live-It List” I was DeTeRmiNeD to take care of all my “unfinished business” in 2012. One of those items was to PubLiSh a book that has been saved on my computer for nearly three years. Well, I can now check that item off my list. My books were delivered to my house this past Friday. What made this accomplished goal even SwEeTeR is that my family, father-in-law, and Lara’s family were there to witness me cutting open the box and seeing my book for the very first time. A very sweet moment indeed.
My book, “The Truth Behind Real Success”, compares the definition of success given to us by our society and culture with that of real, AuThEnTiC success. For more information you can check it out at Amazon.com or BarnesandNoble.com
Source: University Of Nebraska Sports Media
So, what do you do if you’re Tom Osborne (the athletic director and former iconic University Of Nebraska Cornhusker football coach), you’re without a mens’ basketball coach, and looking for a coach with a proven history to build a basketball program? You hire someone who has turned around a handful of floundering basketball programs into thriving and nationally competitive teams. And that coach is Tim Miles. Can I hear a Go BiG ReD?
Tim happens to be a FriEnD of mine. We are from the same small town in South Dakota and I’ve been friends with his parents and siblings for years. So when my family vacationed in Colorado around the time he landed his last job at Colorado State University a few years back, we stopped by to say “Hi” and check out his new facilities. As we were catching up on his life and new coaching position, Scott and I asked him if he ever went back to South Dakota to hunt (a popular sport there – the pheasant, after all is South Dakota’s state bird and for good reason. There are tons of them!) or if he was able to do much snow skiing.
Tim’s answer was one I ReMemBer for a very long time. He told us that years ago, one of his basketball coaching mentors told him that he should “Pick one.” Either he should focus on coaching or let the coaching take 2nd fiddle to these other activities. This mentor understood the sacrifice it would take to be successful at the collegiate level. Smart man (and successful too).
If you are frustrated because you don’t feel like you are good at anything (or at least not as good at something as you would like to be) could it be that you are trying to be good at everything? Is it time to StReEmLiNe? Contrary to popular belief, you can’t have it all.
Take a look at the people you AdMiRe who are at the top of their game in any area of life. When you do, chances are you will discover they have embraced the “Pick One” principle as well. There’s nothing wrong with experimenting to see what works best for you. But to be successful, eventually you have to make a choice and PiCk OnE.
P.S. Thanks for the lesson, Tim.
It is hard to believe that we have just completed mOnTh FiVe of the six-month dream challenge! For the last month (September) we are going to be FeAtuRiNg women who are LiViNg tHeiR DrEaM. We are excited to showcase their accomplishments. These women will be our Woman Of The Week (we will share their story on Fridays). We hope you EnJoY!!
If you have a dream, how do you know it is LeGiT? One of the best pieces of AdViCe I have ever received is to “AlWaYs FoLLoW PeAcE.”
Peace is that knowing deep in your HeArT what is “RiGhT”.
And it will never lead you WrOnG.
This past SpRinG as I trained for a marathon I had a friend SuRpRiSe me with this necklace. On it is an engraving of the the word “BeLiEvE”, a runner, and May’s birthstone representing the month of the race. During the long winter months of training it was a constant ReMiNdEr of the finish line and what I was working so HaRd for.
In pursuing your dreams you may find it motivating to have something TaNgIbLe to stay focused on. It can be a PiCtUrE that you rip out of a magazine, a rock that you paint and use as a paperweight or whatever it is that InSpIrEs you. Find that thing that PoInTs you to your dream and DrEaM On BaBy!
Have you found your SwEeT sPoT? If you are still trying to figure that out, take a look at what “CliCks” for you. Where do you seem to get good ReSuLts and in almost an UnCaNnY way things just work out for you? It is sort of like jumping into a river and the CuRrEnT sweeping you downstream. You may have to paddle a bit to stay on course, but there is an underlying FoRcE moving you forward. Some people may refer to this as the stars aligning or just plain ‘ole luck, but I believe that finding your “sweet spot” will bring the FaVoR and pLeAsUrE of God in your life. When you find your “sweet spot” you find what God created you for and that brings God great DeLiGhT!
Find that thing that “cLiCkS” for you, that thing that brings so much sAtisFacTion to your soul that you feel as though you get “lost” in the moment and where time stands still. Because when you get to the point that you can “click it” it may be that you have found your TiCkiT!
Still trying to find your “SwEeT sPoT”? If so, take a look at what fuels you, not just what you love to do and what you are good at. If what you are doing is making you feel drained and “spent”, chances are you haven’t found your “sweet spot”, at least not yet. If so, take heart and KeEp LoOkInG!! Your “sweet spot” will be a place you are EnErGiZeD and revitalized. It will be a place that you are at the top of your game, a place where the creative juices just seem to flow.
When looking for your “sweet spot” think EnerGizEr BuNnY. Nothing outlasts it and it keeps GoIng and gOiNg and GoiNg and gOinG….
I love to watch people who are “NaTuRaLs”. Whether it be in music, theatre, business, communication, athletics, etc, I find that these people are mesmerizing because they are so good at what they do. They make it look EffOrtLess and in a way it is, because their gift just naturally flows out of them. It’s as singer and actress Pearl Bailey observed when she said,
“There are two kinds of talent, man-made talent and God-given talent. With man-made talent you have to work very hard. With God-given talent, you just ToUch iT Up once in a while.”
I’m not saying you don’t have to work hard to achieve your dreams, because from my experience, hard work has always been a requirement, but I do believe that you will have to work a whole lot harder if your talent is a man-made one.
One way to find your “SwEeT sPoT” is to find out what you’re God-given talent is. This may take some time and definitely some experimenting but it’s well worth it.
How do find what you’re good at? Take a look at what comes easy to you, but not necessarily for others. That is where you are going to get the greatest return on your investment, the biggest bang for your buck.
If you are looking for your God-given talent, remember Go WiTh tHe fLoW, Baby!
What do you LoVe to do so much that you could do for the ReSt of your LiFe and you would do it for FrEe? Chances are your PuRpOsE in life is hiding behind that question.
When searching for your purpose look for the things that you are pAsSioNate about. What do you love to do?
That’s not to say you should only do things that you love, especially if you are trying to figure out what your purpose is. There are numerous stories of successful people who didn’t realize initially what their passion was. Instead, they just took advantage of an opportunity and Voi-La! The passion surfaced.
You’ve probably heard the saying that it’s easier to to “StEeR a mOviNg car vs. a PaRkEd one”. Maybe it is time to get moving and volunteer, take a class, pick up a new hobby, change careers or take advantage of an OpPorTuNity that has been presented to you.
If you’re looking for your passion get the car mOviNg and EnJoY the ride!