This is a tough one. No one wants to face a tragedy, yet you may encounter one in your lifetime. How is one to handle these events? How do we cope with the pain, suffering, and feeling of helplessness? Not to mention, how to avoid the fear of it happening again…
First, we weren’t meant to do this alone. Long ago, we were sent someone who would save us. Someone who came to reassure us that we don’t have to walk our path alone. God knew life on Earth would be difficult, and He wants to help lighten our load. He began restoring our confidence by sending His very own son, Jesus.
Does knowing we have our faith mean it takes away all of our pain and sadness? Unfortunately it doesn’t, but it does provide enough comfort to keep us going. To keep praying. To not lose sight of what God has called us to do: trust in Him and continue to live out the life set before us.
Secondly, we can’t live in fear. I know it is easier said than done. But do we really have a better option? If we are realistic with ourselves, life will consist of steady highs and lows (regardless of how hard we try to control them). So, why not have something constant to lean on through it all? God is here to take care of us. At times it may not seem like it—especially on Earth—but if you keep your eyes on the eternal promise, we are assured He has a place more amazing than we can imagine, waiting specifically for us.
If you are going through a difficult time right now, remember that God is right there with you. He wants to pick you up and carry you. Let Him. And don’t stop there. When He speaks, hear His voice….
“Hang with me. I know this is tough. I am here with you. Your eternal rewards will be great, I promise. Never lose sight of me. I love you. ”
I’m praying for you. Keep the faith-
I got up this morning with a mission to help my daughter. As a homework assignment, she was asked to gather pictures of herself which capture her favorite things. As I began skimming through files of photos on my computer, you would have thought I was spending most of my time smiling and reminiscing about the past. To my surprise, recalling those days turned into feelings of discouragement as my role as MOM.
You see, after I had my first daughter, seven years ago, I did a great job taking lots of pictures and getting them into a scrapbook in a timely matter. As life got more hectic and our family grew, I didn’t capture the same moments by photograph with my other two kids—probably because I usually had one kid on my hip and a basket of laundry in the other.
The reality is, life will always be hectic and I CaN’t Do iT ALL. As soon as I had those sunken feelings this morning I could see how this day was going to pan out—feeling guilty ALL day about the numerous things I should be doing better. Like how I should plan meals ahead of time instead of pulling meat from the freezer at 4:59 every afternoon…or logging our monthly expenses in a spreadsheet every month instead of staring at a pile of receipts from the last 5 months. The list is never-ending, isn’t it?
Instead, as soon as my daughter left for school, I shut those feelings down by thinking to myself, “I’m not going there”. I’m not going to spend the entire day beating myself up about my areas of weakness as a mother. To help, I tried to imagine what our seven-month-old would say to me when he becomes an adult. If he knew how terrible I felt for not taking pictures of his sweet feet when he was only a few days old, he would say, “Mom….really? That’s what you’re worried about? It’s not a big deal. Really.” And then he would go on to remind me how I would play tractors with him on the living room floor and spontaneously make him a farmyard out of old oatmeal containers and cereal boxes. Ahh…thank you, my sweet kiddos, for loving me for my imperfect self. And Leanne, make sure you remember this if you become a Mom some day. Don’t be so hard on yourself :)
So if this is you today, pick yourself up and start focusing on the things you do well. You simply can’t do it all. Don’t let special moments (like scanning through years of pictures and reflecting on the past with your kids) pass you by because you are beating yourself up, wishing you’d done better.
From one parent to another, I think you are doing just fine ;)
Every now and then I find myself focusing way too much on areas of my body that I don’t like. Do you ever do that? Often times it is the skin spots that keep popping up with age or the way my body has changed after having three kids. *Sigh*.
Well today I got an email that included the video I have posted below. Talk about impeccable timing. I am glad God put it on someone’s heart to pass it along, because I needed this reminder. Just in case you needed it too, I decided to share it with you!
This video is an eye-opener in more ways than one. Not only does it make me think twice about nitpicking areas of my physique, but gave me a kick in the pants for when I get down about life or complain about a task being too difficult.
Attitude is everything. Don’t deprive yourself of a good life just because everything isn’t perfect. And I love what Chris says, “If you are worried about how you look, you are cheating yourself out of opportunities.” Needed to hear that. So true.
I hope this touches your heart like it did mine. Enjoy…
I know I shared this a couple of years ago, but I just had to share this again for anyone that may have missed it! I LoVe this homemade potpourri! It is super easy to make and will smell up your entire home for the holidays! Try it out and let me know what you think!
3 Cinnamon Sticks
3 Bay Leaves
¼ C. Cloves
2 Lemon Wedges
1 Orange Peel
(Top 3 ingredients are found in the dry spice section of the grocery store.)
CoMbiNe all of these ingredients in a small crock-pot. Add water to cover top of all ingredients. Leave on low temperature. As the smell fades, continue to add water and various ingredients to keep the mixture moist for a continuous yummy smell! EnJoy!
*Be sure to unplug your crockpot at night because all the water will be gone by morning and the potpourri will be burnt!
*If you are ready to start a new batch, drain the water and set out the old potpourri to dry. Even as dry potpourri it smells AWESOME! Place the dry potpourri in a pretty bowl on a table as another way to smell up your home and extend the life of your potpourri!
Need a quick X-Mas Present idea?! Throw the ingredients into a basket or mini-crockpot and give as a gift! Include a printed version of the recipe by clicking here!
I am hard on my kids. Too hard, a lot of times, which always makes me regret it once I stop and think about how I’m treating them. Instead of choosing my battles, I decide to take on every battle! That is what SUPERMOM is all about, right? Keeping a tight leash on your kids and setting the bar super high? After some ReFleCtioN this week, maybe I should start looking for a new role model…
As Christians, we know how miserably we fail at numerous tasks and actions throughout our day, yet when we glance up at God we are reassured that He forgives and loves us no matter how much we are being a disappointment. It is so comforting to know that when I make mistakes, at least someone still has my back…because HE knows we are human and are far from pErfeCt.
Yet WHY do I hold my kids to a different standard? When they don’t do what I ask, or spill a cup FULL of pop on the floor, I repeatedly get on to them and ask why they didn’t listen or be more careful!! Not only that, but I bring it up AGAIN when their Dad comes home and maybe even AGAIN before they go to sleep, in hopes that I am getting my point across!
When I make the same exact mistakes (just in adult form!), does God TrEaT me like that? Never. I always feel Him looking at me in a calm way, his eyes telling me that I need to pick myself up and go on. I know I let Him down but I also know that once I acknowledge my weaknesses to Him, He moves on and doesn’t keep throwing it in my face. I really appreciate that about Him.
So why is it okay for me to fail God but not okay for others to fail me? As cHalleNgiNg as it will be, I am going to try to be as understanding and calm with my children as He is to me. Sure, I’ll still get on to them and discipline when needed, but then I need to let it go and hope they make a better decision next time. We know that kids won’t always do the right thing, but thankfully God doesn’t give up on us adults either! With every year I get under my belt, I can see I’m going to need all the help and forgiveness I can get!
It has been a while since I updated you on our HOuSe! As most of you know, last summer we had our house lifted and moved to our new farm. It traveled over 100 miles! Here is a picture of what it looked like shortly after it was moved and set back down on a new basement foundation:
Over the past 16 months we have added on a new “front” to the house. In August I began painting the exterior–which still needs to get finished–but already has helped improve the overall look. We have many “phases” of the house we need to complete before it becomes our “dReaM” home. Since our current garage is used as my office/woodshop, our next plan is to extend the garage and have a porch which will connect the new garage and current front door area. Not sure how soon this will happen, but in the meantime I am enjoying each new phase of seeing it come together.
Many of you wonder how our house has held up after traveling such a long distance. There were only a few hairline cracks in the sheetrock above the interior doors but besides that, you’d never know it went through such a haul! We continue to feel blessed about the entire process of the move and are glad we stuck with our CrAzY idea ;) We couldn’t be happier in our new location and look forward to making more memories in the first house we ever purchased (just with a different landscape)!
To read about the MOVING journey, click below in the following order:
read Why Move A House? , Demo Work , Moving Day, Moving Our House and Did We Make the Right Decision?
I know…it is only September…but I already have half of my Christmas shopping DONE! The motive for starting so early? I’m tired of stressing out during the holidays!
The reason I’m starting so early has to do with money. If I began now, I could spread the cost of gifts over the course of several months, instead of spending a large sum of cash in November and December. Since we do a monthly budget, I didn’t want to go WAY over in December (and throw the budget out the window), all because of Christmas. I figure if I SpReAd OuT my spending, I could easily pay $50-$150 in Christmas gifts and it wouldn’t make much of an impact each month.
The last couple of weeks I started searching for a few gifts. To my surprise, I was able to purchase several of my items half-off, just by shopping on eBay and Amazon! If I would have purchased those same items in a couple months from now, I’d be bidding against NuMeRouS (stressed) Christmas shoppers, which would make the bidding prices go uP Up UP!!! I have already saved significant cash on gifts, which allowed me to start working on the items I was planning to purchase next month. Can’t beat that!
The other obvious advantage is avoiding to shop (and panic) at the last minute. I feel less rushed doing it this way and can also make sure I get what I really want (since items are IN STOCK in September! ha!)
Christmas can be the last thing on your mind since we haven’t even hit Halloween, but if your past experiences left you in financial ruins and stress, it might be worth considering!