A Sure Way Of Making Enemies – And How To Avoid It

Quotes from How to Win Friends & Influence People (Revised Edition) by Dale Carnegie:

Chapter: A Sure Way Of Making Enemies – And How To Avoid It.

Principle:  Show respect for the other person’s opinions.  Never say, “You’re wrong”.

“You can tell people they are wrong by a look or an intonation or a gesture just as eloquently as you can in words.”  (pg. 123)

“There’s magic, positive magic in such phrases as:  “I may be wrong.  I frequently am.  Let’s examine the facts.’”  (pg. 125)

“Few people are logical.  Most of us are prejudiced and biased.”  (pg. 126)

“We sometimes find ourselves changing our minds without any resistance or heavy emotion, but if we are told we are wrong, we resent the imputation and harden our hearts…It is obviously not the ideas themselves that are dear to us, but our self-esteem.”  (pg. 126-127)

“If you want some excellent suggestions about dealing with people and managing yourself and improving your personality, read Benjamin Franklin’s autobiography… he conquered the iniquitous habit of argument and transformed himself into one of the most able, suave and diplomatic men in American history.”  (pg. 128-129)

“Be diplomatic,” counseled the King.  “It will help you gain your point.’” (pg. 134)

Principle:  Show respect for the other person’s opinions.  Never say, “You’re wrong”.

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