The Big Secret Of Dealing With People

Quotes from How to Win Friends & Influence People (Revised Edition) by Dale Carnegie:

Chapter:  The Big Secret Of Dealing With People

Principle:  Give honest and sincere appreciation.

“One of the first people in American business to be paid a salary of over a million dollars a year (when there was no income tax and a person earning fifty dollars a week was considered well off) was Charles Schwab…

Schwab says that he was paid this salary largely because of his ability to deal with people…

“I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among my people,” said Schwab, “the greatest asset I possess, and the way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement.

There is nothing else that so kills the ambitions of a person as criticisms from superiors.  I never criticize anyone.  I believe in giving a person incentive to work.  So I am anxious to praise but loath to find fault.  If I like anything, I am hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise…

In my wide association in life, meeting with many and great people in various parts of the world,” Schwab declared, “I have yet to find the person, however great or exalted his station, who did not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than he would ever do under a spirit of criticism.”  (pg 24-25)

“We nourish the bodies of our children and friends and employees, but how seldom do we nourish their self-esteem?  We provide them with roast beef and potatoes to build energy, but we neglect to give them kind words of appreciation that would sing in their memories for years like the music of the morning stars.”  (pg. 28)

“I shall pass this way but once; any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now.  Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.” (pg. 31)

“Let’s cease thinking of our accomplishments, our wants.  Let’s try to figure out the other person’s good points.  Then forget flattery.  Give honest, sincere appreciation.  Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.” and people will cherish your words and treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime – repeat them years after you have forgotten them.”  (pg. 31)

Principle: Give honest and sincere appreciation.

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2 responses to “The Big Secret Of Dealing With People

  1. Erica

    I felt God calling me to your page, I haven’t checked in for awhile. I was really uplifted by it today! I sooooo want to do better with the kids, honest praise! They say it takes 10 positive comments to make up for one negative….how is it that we get so turned around?

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