Gift Giving

Believe it or not, this is one that I sTruggLe with.  Birthdays, surgeries, baby arrivals and house warming gifts are just some of the few events that leave me defeated due to lack of creative ideas and planning ahead for special moments.

Before I continue with my point, it might be helpful to share some of my history.    Growing up, my family didn’t CeleBraTe birthdays with gifts.  Don’t get me wrong, I have extremely fond memories of birthdays…Mom made our favorite meal, we got a custom decorated Dairy Queen ice cream cake and we ended the night watching a movie as a family.  BUT, we never had the big piles of presents…in fact, it was very rare that we associated gifts with birthdays.  I knew other kids who did that, but I never thought anything of it because I felt my birthday was special and uNiqUe the way we celebrated it.

Because I didn’t grow up getting many gifts I think that is why I have a hard time buying gifts for others.  Now that I am older, it seems more challenging because everyone around me seems so thoughtful and I find that people give gifts for almost any and every occasion!  In some ways I have learned to be better about gift giving.  I try to have a basket of goodies on hand that I can wrap up in a pinch and give to someone as the occasion arises.  Robynn gave me some great aDviCe—buy people things that they can consume (candles or a specialty food item) that way if they don’t like it they aren’t obligated to keep it around.  This was helpful because just trying to think of what to give always served as an extra road block.

More importantly, give from the HEART.  Anymore, if I don’t have time to make a trip to town I just tuck some money in a card and put a cute piece of paper around it saying “This $ is only to be spent at Dairy Queen for your Birthday”.  Even though it isn’t an official gift card, it’s the thought that counts.  In the end, isn’t that what gift giving is all about?

~Lara

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5 responses to “Gift Giving

  1. love this idea, neat…..I like to give consumables also…

  2. Miranda

    I never would have guessed that your parents didn’t do birthday gifts! My family, especially my mom’s side, definitely shows love with gifts. It’s easy for me to give gifts when I have a little extra money to spend. Not that gifts have to be extravagant, but even $5-10 here and there adds up. My husband’s family is not all about giving gifts to each other. I am sure they do…but since we aren’t around them, they don’t send gifts, nor do we send them any, for birthdays or Christmas. My family, on the other hand, and especially my mom and sisters, send gifts for everything. Even Easter and Halloween. What’s been hard about it for me, is when I don’t have the extra money to put into it…I feel like I am leaving others with the impression that I don’t care. And that’s not it at all. So..for those who love gift giving, please don’t feel offended, or feel there is a lack of love or caring if someone doesn’t give gifts, either because of financial circumstances, or because they just aren’t sure what to get, or because they just don’t think about it. It doesn’t mean they are bad people! It usually just means they show their love differently.

  3. Sara

    Miranda, you are so right! We show our LOVE differently.

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