Last night I decided on a whim to take my kids out to dinner to a restaurant that gives out balloons to every kid when they enter the restaurant. My kids LoVe this and discuss what color balloon they are going to choose the entire car ride there. As parents it is not such a great perk because we spend most of our meal reminding the kids not to let the balloons touch the ceiling because they can pop, not to let the balloons get caught in the ceiling fans, begging the kids to let us tie the balloons to their chairs, and the list goes on and on and on! As many of you know my son Nicholas just loves to push the envelope every chance he gets and last night this little game of taunting Mommy with the green balloon was really pushing my last button. I always tell my kids that they only get ONE balloon at the restaurant whether they lose theirs or if they pop theirs…ONE and that’s it, the rest are for the other kids who come to eat with their families. When we walked outside to get into our car I decided that I wanted to take a picture of Nicholas and Abby with their balloons. The sun was in the perfect spot to cast a shadow of their little bodies holding their balloons and I wanted to save that moment.
Not two seconds after I snapped the picture…Nicholas let go of his balloon. He has never lost a balloon before, but knowing Nicholas I knew his reaction was not going to be good. He starting crying and begging for me to go inside the restaurant to get him a new one. I knew I could quickly stop the scene by running in and getting him a new balloon, but then I would be going back on my one balloon rule so that was out of the question. As my mind raced to somehow make this situation better out of nowhere appeared a little girl no older than 10 years old. She saw how upset Nicholas was as he was pointing and yelling at his green balloon in the sky and she handed him a blue balloon that she had received from the restaurant. As she walked away I stopped her and told her what a wonderful thing she had just done and how happy she had just made my son.
It is NeVeR too early to start teaching kids that kindness counts.
~Robyn (Jersey Girl)
Have you ever seen the glass bridge suspended over the Grand Canyon? All I can say is… S C A R Y!!! Even though I wouldn’t consider myself to have a fear of heights I do have a healthy respect for them. When my girls start moving towards the edge of some high object whether it be a cliff, a bridge, or a tower, my heart starts pounding and I quickly whisk them away from danger and a fall.
Well, in life, whether or not we want to admit it, we all have some “cliff” (or more) that’s end result is disaster. It’s different for all of us, maybe for you it’s shopping or gambling or alcohol or overeating. The funny thing about this “cliff” is that instead of being afraid of getting even remotely near the edge we do the exact opposite – get as close to it as possible. Even with the knowledge that getting close will result in a free fall.
How can you avoid falling off the “cliff”? Learn a lesson from people who have a fear of heights - avoid these kinds of places at all costs. If your issue is alcohol then stay away from places where you will be presented with it, or even around it for that matter. This may also mean you will need to break ties with certain people, but how much are you willing to sacrifice? This is your life we are talking about! The only one you get!!
If you find it difficult to overcome a character flaw, it may even be necessary to seek help from another person. It may be a family member, a friend, a priest/pastor, or a professional, because getting help from someone is always the best way to get out of a hole you just can’t seem to crawl out of.
I know this is hard to hear, but if we really want the best life possible, we have to set up boundaries that will serve to protect us. Yes, even from ourselves.
Is this optional. No. But when you consider what’s at stake and all you have to lose is there any other option?
BTW, I have not yet been to the Grand Canyon, but hope to visit someday. Will I be able to walk on this bridge? That remains to be seen!!
…what do you do? Whether it was a friend from 2nd grade, a boyfriend, or family member, we can all remember of a time that we hurt someone. If you were lucky, they forgave you. If not, you may still be seeking forgiveness.
I’ve really struggled with this question over the years. It is upsetting when you do everything you can to mAke iT riGhT—apologizes, phone calls, a kind demeanor, or even space away from you—to result in nothing more than a cold shoulder years later. This is frustrating and can often tempt you to be angry at the person. It’s this vicious cycle of you wanting forgiveness, them staying resentful, and then you being mad at them for still holding a grudge!
There comes a time when YOU just have to LeT Go. Let Go of the fact that they may never forgive you. If you have exhausted all options, you have done the best that you can. You can’t live the rest of your life in misery because of something you’ve already tried to fix. When you see them, continue to be friendly but don’t put your life on hold because you may never get the answer you are wanting.
And if you are the one that is still holding a grudge…re-read this post and put yourself in their shoes. Realize how much you are missing out simply because you won’t give one of the biggest gifts you can give…FORGIVENESS.
Not only do I LoVe eating cupcakes, but I also LoVe baking them! Sometimes I think one of the reasons I wanted to be a mom so badly was so that I could make cupcakes for my kids to bring in to school on holidays! When I taught 1st grade I found any and every excuse to bake cupcakes for my kiddies including cupcakes with blue icing and little baseball gloves on them to tell the class I was having a baby boy when I was pregnant with Nicholas! With all this cupcake baking comes quite a HUGE collection of cupcake liners. I’m starting to think that buying cupcake liners is somewhat of a mini-obsession for me. Especially after doing this post. I have now come to the realization that I can throw a baby shower, baptism, Superbowl bash, dinosaur dig, princess tea, and that doesn’t include your general calendar holidays! My cabinet was overflowing and I couldn’t figure out a good system for storing the many, many, MaNy liners that I had, but I knew that something had to give or the next time I went to bake cupcakes they were all going to come crashing down and I was going to have a big mess to clean up. I looked around for containers at the dollar stores, but there really wasn’t anything that I thought would work so I went through things I had at home. While drinking Seltzer the other night it occurred to me that the bottle was the exact size to hold the liners and it was the perfect height to fit in my cabinet. We drink Seltzer by the case in our house so all I had to do was take a few out of recycling and soak off the labels. Now I have the perfect system for organizing and storing my cupcake liners, tons of new-found cabinet space, and it didn’t cost me a dime!
Cabinet before shot
Remove labels and cut off tops of bottles
Fill with cupcake liners
Cabinet after shot!
~Robyn (Jersey Girl)
For the past few years I have scrambled to get my ChRiStMaS cards out before DeCeMeBeR 24th. My problem wasn’t that I had the cards sitting around the house and just didn’t get around to it, but rather it was racing to get pictures taken and then have the cards made. Last year I only received my cards 2-3 days before Christmas. After spending hours addressing them the eve of December 23rd, I decided that was it. Then and there I resolved that I would get Christmas pictures taken in June and create my Christmas card in July. I was tired of self-imposing stress on myself during what should be a JoYoUs HoLiDaY. And that is what I did.
This year I’m getting my cards at Tinyprints. I haven’t ordered them yet, but I plan on ordering them by the 18th of this month because if I do I will get a 25% discount, (yet another benefit of ordering early!!) Now that I have Christmas cards checked off my list I’m thinking of Christmas planning, shopping, etc. that I can take care of now so that when the joyous holidays do come I can enjoy every minute of it.
Is there something you can do now that will free up your time and energy for the holidays? They will be here before we know it!!
So as I was tripping out my backdoor on Monday…and when I say tripping, I mean my foot got caught in the strap of a beach bag that had been sitting in the doorway for over a month…I decided that this was the day I was finally going to TaKe BaCk My HoUse! As you can clearly see from my before picture, possibly I have been spending a little too much time crafting, blogging, playing, facebooking, pinteresting, etc. and not quite enough time keeping things in order around here. I’m not sure if my foot in the beach bag was what pushed me over the edge or if it was the fear of my coffee spilling over, but who really cares…a two second incident was all it took to make me realize something needed to give. OK…looking at the before picture…LOTS of things needed to give!
My husband was skeptical at first as he always is when I go on my organizing crazes, but I think part of him was also just happy that I was finally going through the gigantic pile of shoes, coats, and bags that had accumulated by the back door that he just humored me. With a little help from Target I am thrilled with the results and so are my kids. They love having their own cubbies to put their shoes in when they come home and it helps teach them to be responsible. A lot of the other stuff I used to spruce up the area I had lying around the house not being used. Even my husband was shocked at the transformation!
Is there an area in your home that wouldn’t take much to spruce up but keeps getting ignored? Take a look around at things you already have that you aren’t using. Maybe they will work to revamp another room in your home. You’ll be surprised what you find once you start looking around! Happy hunting!
~Robyn (Jersey Girl)